The Ramblings of a Saudi Wife...

Lingerie SalesMEN no more :D

2011-12-31T17:19:00.001+03:00

Hello there folks...

For as long as I had this blog... I had a sign that stated 'Say NO to SalesMEN in Saudi'... it has been a hot topic for many locally & internationally. There have been several times where men were told that the this double standard act had to stop- where men and women are strictly banned from mingling, yet we as women had to buy some of our most intimate belongings from MEN. Many chose to ignore the decrees where they were told the jobs had to be handed over to women instead of the men who currently held the position. Just imagine walking into a shop to buy yoursel funderwear, you pick up a 34C, and then a man comes out no where and says, this 36C looks about your size! Excuse me!!! The nerve right? Well this was a normal occurance for women across this nation. Many completely stopped buying their intimates from Saudi, and waited to indulge while the travelled. I remember once when I was in teh La Vie en ROse pictured bellow (before it became family only- women sales reps- I was buying some pyjamas, and then the sales clerk - a man- tried to get me to buy this feathery looking whips! He continued on to tell me that the black is nice, but the red one would be much nicer! The nerve! Something I wouldn't even talk to my husband about, and now I had some perve trying to sell me some feathery whips! I will leave the use for it to you imagination!!!

Many of the owners of these franchises refused to listen to the decree, or the many calls by the labour minister that this had to be put to an end, that they needed to train women- but alas..... ladies we have finally done it! I can now safely remove the banner from my blog, and change it to something else. Now that we have finally been allowed the dignity of buying out own intimates... can I please be given the dignity to take my self in my own car to purchase them? Pretty please? That is my next Banner. I pray that sometime n teh near future my latest banner will be allowed to retire as something from the past. That one day they will allow us women to live as adults in this nation. ... So Alf Mabrook ladies... .. now lets continue on and hopefully be able to drive OURSELVES to the lingerie store!


Taken at Kindom Mall Riyadh

Some articles on the subject;

80% of ladies stores begin hiring Saudi saleswomen, says JCCI

Saudi begins goodbye to male lingerie salesmen

Saleswomen Seize Power in Saudi Arabia's Lingerie Shops

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Al Shaya; No Refunds, Really?!

2011-12-06T14:50:00.001+03:00

What especially bothers me is that we do not have change rooms here... so we MUST buy goods just to try it on... so under this new rule... we are forced to buy merchandise (even if we do not know it fits)... and then we are not allowed to have a full cash refund? Really... I guess we are gonna have a lot of ladies hiding behind the racks to try clothing on now... good move Al Shaya... your greed HAS gotten the best of u! #MajorFail

Al Shaya; No Refunds, Really?!

The Terrible Twos really do exist!

2011-12-04T14:21:00.001+03:00

I love my children... I really, Really, REALLY do! They have brought in so much happiness to my life... they have shown me that there is more to life then meets the eye.

The Day I had my first child, my life had changed. My daughter was such an adorable little baby, so sweet, so peaceful, and so quiet. She was good (and still is) great at listening to me. Now at 4 she actually knows how to read my eyes, and can see what I am telling her. She knows what looks means 'don't you dare', she knows what look means 'go ahead', and many other gestures with different meanings. My dear daughter made it all so easy. I used to hear about the whole terrible 2 think and always thought to myself; those parents really don't know how to parent.. I should go give them a lesson or two.

Well a couple of years down the line... I am in desperate need of help and advise. I scour through article after article on how to deal with my now terrible 2 son. At times he has me in disbelief.. I ask myself, did he just do that? He is truly a sweet little kid (I guess I am biased).... but there are those times where he just locks his head up and throws out the keys. Somehow the word NO becomes a YES. Sit means stand up. Stop means go. (You get the point). I keep telling myself, he is just a kid, it will pass, but what if it doesn't? I have seen kids act worst then him and much older? can sit here and blame cousins and what not for the learnt behaviours. But that will surely do no good. I am at a loss folks, I need help with my baby boy. I have been told often, boys will be boys. But what if I want a little boy that will listen to what he is told? I think another problem we have in my household is the different types of parenting. My husband is the smack him one type, and I am the talk to him type. My husband keeps telling me to just smack him, and he will listen... (I once actually did... and I felt like a shithead for a while). I don't believe beating him into submission will help, my talking is surely not helping, and the million and one websites that promise me it will all be over soon have given me no solace.

My son playing outside <3

Till then, I will try as many methods as I can google, and hoping that one day I will find that Magic Jackpot winner, as I am truly tired. I look at my 6 month old son now, and fear what is in store for me...

PS- I promise not to have the holier than thou attitude again... lesson learned!

Blogs I love... and a Happy New Year :)

2011-11-26T11:34:00.002+03:00

There are many blogs I LOVE, the blogs just put a smile on my face when I visit them... they are always full of nice fun and interesting topics... here is a list of 5 blogs I truly enjoy.. they are in no specific order... and they by no means are a full list of the blogs I enjoy reading... there are more.. but as I am here with my 2 year old son and my infant.. I really could not commit to a longer post now... I will be sure to more of the lovely blogs I love to explore and read....

1) Noor over at http://littlepinkstrawberries.blogspot.com and http://www.yasalamcooking.com/
This girl is talented masha'allah... she always has an interesting topic to share.. and a yummilicious recipe to tickle everyones fancy.. Warning! You may gain weight just looking at her beautiful concoctions !!

2) Leyla over at http://blueabaya.blogspot.com/ gives readers a wonderful insite of Saudi from an Finish married to a Saudi's perspective! Her finish humor makes the blog a delight to read... she is also over at http://imagesofsaudi.blogspot.com/ where she shares her wonderful photographic skills and takes visitors on a journey of often unseen sites in Saudi!

3) Mama B over at http://yamaamaa.com/ ... Ya Mamaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa (need I say more?) her humourous views on parenting here in the Magic kingdom is simply hilarious. She allows readers into the life of her Saudi family... her posts often have me in tears (tears of nearly pissing in my pants laughter!) a must READ!

4) Dentographer over at http://dentographer.blogspot.com/.. he is a dentist and a photographer... need I say more? his blog takes you into his wonderful world of photography.. he shares his wonderful life as a daddy... and has you loving every single post he publishes (yala.. get back to blogging already... ur one of the people who got me back to blogging!)

5) Under the Abaya over at http://undertheabaya.wordpress.com/... she takes you along on her funny yet at times heart wrenching roller coaster called life. Her words speak to me often... she takes you into her little world.. her self realization, her acceptance.. and her will to make it!

and there you have it.... Enjoy!

Wishing you and your loved ones a very Happy (Hijri) New Year <3

My gadget monster

2011-11-08T11:01:00.002+03:00

Just as I was getting the hang of blogging my son spilt half a cup of coffee on my laptop... May it RIP. In his 2 years 1 month and 2 weeks in this world ... He has destroyed 4 laptops, an ipad, 2 of my Ericsson phones and my husbands old blackberry! Anyway I am typing this from my iphone and wanted to explain my absence. Moreover I would like to wish you all a very happy and blessed Eid...

3idkum Mubarak wa 3sakum mn 3wada 

Cute :D

2011-11-04T09:42:00.003+03:00

So my baby girl walks up to me this morning sits next to me, gies me her cute little look, but this time there was a hint of confusion in it... she then goes on to say....

Lujain- When I was laying down daddy went to the funny place... and he turned into a small daddy.

Me- Your daddy became a small daddy?!

Lujain- 'Yes mommy', then she whispers.. 'mommy how did he do it? how did he become small'

Me- honey it was a dream, go see daddy he is still normal :D

hehehe.. her dad turned into a midget in her dream .. Priceless :D

She just came to me and says-

Lujain- Mommy you were melting, and Mansour was jumping on you...

Me- Oh My... Was I the wicked witch of the west?

Lujain- Blank look :D :D :D

Source: http://mcrapu.com/wp-content/uploads/2009/06/kids-dream.jpg

Brat Ban- KSA

2011-11-02T13:13:00.002+03:00

What is a brat ban you say? They are establishments that have a NO-Child policy.

What does that mean? Well if you have a child with you, you simply can not go there.

There are movie theaters, restaurants, grocery stores and countless other places that are implementing this ban. As a mother of 3 kids 4 and under, what is my say on the subject? I am all for it! I think there are places where children should not be allowed. Sometimes people need time away from their little ones. Lets take this scenario.

You have been working all week, and you and your partner need some alone grown-up time. you get a babysitter (or maid here) to take care of your kids, you get all dressed up, a dash of perfume, and you're out the door. You make it to the 5 star restaurant, are seated in a nice comfy corner. You laugh, and talk about your week, while sipping on your Saudi champagne. Out of no where you hear a loud squeal, and a baby crying. There is a toddler sitting there screaming and throwing his food. You can no longer concentrate on your partner as all you hear is kids screaming, and a baby crying. the parents are mortified and don't know how to control the situation. Your date night is ruined, you might as well have brought your own kids so they could join the commotion.

That folks is why I truly believe, some places in Saudi need a brat ban! Hell, I feel the labour and delivery ward at the hospital needs to enforce a time where children should not be allowed to visit! When I had Abdullah, there were kids running around the halls at Kingdom Hospital at 2am!!!!

Anyway, this morning I was that mortified parent. I went to a new upscale french restaurant for breakfast, and I could not even enjoy anything. So please lets start a brat ban in this country, so parents like myself will know to leave their kids with a sitter/family member, and newly weds can enjoy some peace and quiet and truly enjoy the ambiance...

Heck.. lets get rid of all loud people.. children and adults alike ;)

What do you see wrong in these pictures?

2011-10-29T08:38:00.000+03:00

Can you spot anything wrong with any of these pictures? look really hard and you will notice something way off...

Have you noticed it yet? Pls take a good look... you will see something really wrong!

If you weren't able to see it.. look at the car I in the middle.. look at the rear window.. do you see the child laying down there? Mind you we are on a highway..in RIYADH! Not the safest of roads in the world.... I will never comprehend why parents allow such craziness.. I see kids jumping aeround the car on higways here.. I see fathers holding infants on their laps why they drive like mad men on the roads... i find mothers with children on her lap in the front seat, without a worry in the world. The look at me like a mad women when I have my kids all buckled into the car seats... I don't understand why they do not understand that for th safety of their children they need to buckle up! If an accident happens and the child is thrown out of the window and is kille.d. its is MURDER!

How long will it take for people to learn to take care of their kids.. to put their safety first above all laziness. There really needs to be an awareness campaign in this country...!

The Halloween Wake-up call....

2011-10-27T10:19:00.000+03:00

My daughter has been doing a Halloween countdown now for about 2 weeks, asking me daily... 'Mama how long do I have left for Halloween'.. and I tell her without even thinking. She came home yesterday all proud showing me her weeks work. Don't get me wrong.. I think it was cute.. and I told her how beautiful her work was.. and how proud I was to have such a smart, beautiful daughter...

A Black cat she cut out and glued.

A pumkin she cut out and coloured

&

A flying bat she made.

She will be having a Halloween party at school next week, in which we ordered her a sleeping beauty outfit from Amazon. Just now it hit me when I asked my daughter... ha 7abeeebti... what is next week... and she shouted out HALLOWEEN. I was actually waiting for her to say Eid!

It hit me hard.. My 4 year old daughter, who was born and lives in Riyadh, Saudi Arabia... a supposed Qaseemiya... knows NOTHING about Eid and knows next to nothing about Islam, except that I pray... she is doing the countdown for Halloween and driving me crazy daily yo try on her 'princess dress'... yet hadn't the slightest clue what Eid was supposed to be.

I failed big time! I really failed!

I am supposed to teach her what Eid is, I am supposed to teach her about Islam, by verbally teaching her, and through my actions. Sadly I failed!

This was a wake up call for me, that I MUST be more active in teaching my daughter things. One month in school and she is already doing the Halloween dance... and I am pretty sure Christmas will be yet another countdown.

I am awake now.. and shall be the teacher I am supposed to be.. give her more one on one time... teach her about our beautiful religion...

Weird/funny my things my daughter says..

2011-10-27T08:36:00.000+03:00

About a week ago:

Me- Hon what do you want dad to get for you from the store
Lujain- Mama I want dad to get me some more dolls
Me- Honey you already have enough
Lujain- No Mama... I need more... they are bored and they want to talk to more dolls..

When she gets home from school, I like to ask her how her day went.

Me- How was your day love?
Lujain- I cut some papers with scissors
Me-Oh thats nice, so now you can cut?

Lujain-Yes Mama

Me- What else did you do hon?

Lujain- we did exersize mama. (she is eyeing the playroom)

Me- What did you do?

Lujain- 'she got up to show me' Really fast :)

Me- Oh that is nice hon, so you had fun

Lujain- yes mom (she is getting really fidgety now)

Me- what else did you did you learn 7abooba?

Lujain- ummmm mom, I really can't talk now, can we talk later?, I need to go colour before Mansour wakes up :D

(If Mansour is awake, he terrorises her, and doesn't let her get anything done.. :D)

Two days ago:

I gave both kids some cheetos (Not a usual thing.. but once in a while I give it to them. Mansour usually ALWAYS does a grab and dash on her where he will walk near her without notice... and in a split second grab whatever is in her hand and runnnnnns... lol.. I call it the 'grab and dash'. Anyway Lujain finished hers.... and was staring at Mansours bowl (it takes him ages to finish)... she looked to see that I wasn't looking, and grabbed one and stuffed it into her mouth. He was in shock... not happy... and I had to laugh really hard (I noticed the whole thing).. I then made her give back what she took from him (whatever she wasn't already happily munching).. and continue to laugh...

Lujain- Why are you laughing mama?
Me: I think that was hilarious... my have the tables turned..
Lujain- It is NOT funny, I am angry!
Me- You did wrong hon
Lujain- No, that was my bowl, so it is my cheetos...

Last night:

Lujain: Mama I learnt Arabic (she says it like an American... Ay-ra -(soft r) bic
Me: What did you learn today?
Lujain: Baqara (she says it Back-a-ra (soft r)
Me: That is nice... Baqara means cow hon..
Lujain: Yes mom, and I learnt another word!
Me: Thats is great what did you learn?
Lujain: khashakaha (thats what I heard!)
Me: ha? what was the hon
Lujain: says some gibrish again and she was looking all proud!

For a second I thought maybe just maybe there is a word I may not understand.. so i waited for my husband.. and he asked her to repeat her new word.. and she replied... Khashaha-whatever.

None of us understood... I need to call her arabic teacher! Perhaps get her to send home whatever she teaches her daily...

May you Rest in Peace...

2011-10-26T16:04:00.002+03:00

Monday night much of the nation was glued to their TV's in anticipation of the moment the beloved Crown Prince- Prince Sultan's body would return to his homeland after his battle with Colon Cancer, and his death in New York on Saturday October 22nd. Like many of the people watching, I had goose bumps while watching the plane land on Saudi soil. Seeing the beloved King Abdullah walking [albeit with a walker] to receive the body of his younger brother was priceless- made even more touching with the knowledge that the King underwent Back surgery just days prior.

Source- Facebook

The crowd at the airport was overwhelming. The love pouring out to the late crown prince was something unseen. He was known as Sultan Al Khair- the good. He was well known for his charitable association, and the help he lent to those less priviliged. He was a man of honour. I watched a video on YouTube the other day, it brought me to tears, it showed the late Prince with a little handicapped boy. The laughing, the sweetness, the way he made a complete stranger feel like he was more important than anyone else, at that moment, I saw a glimpse of the prince I had not seen before, the paternal side. It was beautiful. Yesterday on twitter one of his grandsons posted a picture of himself as a newborn being held by his late grandfather. The picture once again showed me this wonderful paternal side of the late prince. A very touching site indeed.

Source- Fahad F Saud @1AngryArab

Type Prince Sultan on google, and search the pictures, out of thousands of pictures, I found a handfull that he was not smiling. He was truly the Smiling Prince... always happy...His smile was captivating, he seemed to be a happy and joyful person. He was buried yesterday. His family, His people, the nation have said their last goodbyes.

Source- Facebook

May he rest in peace, and it is beautiful that he had the chance to leave this world with so many people thinking so highly of him- again, not something that easily accomplished.

Source: Facebook

I would like you to take note the absolute purity of Islam, that no matter who we are, we all are laid to rest the same way. No extravagant shrines, or tombstones, no expensive marketing inspired coffins, we return to our lord in a simple white sheet- all of us. Royal or Commoner, Rich or poor, Black or white... we all return equal.

Dignitaries from around the world are pouring into our city to pay their last respects....
Allah yr7amak ya Sultan al Khair... May your sins be forgiven, and may you have a place in heaven waiting....

PS- There were articles online titled hundreds at the crown princes funeral (or something of the sort).. I don't know what footage they were watching.. but there were thousands flooding the masjid leaving barely any room to move around..... !

Long time no Blog...

2011-10-24T10:35:00.001+03:00

This blog post was done last week.. but I forgot to publish it.. so here it is :)

Hey there folks...

Its been an extremely long time since I have blogged.. so I figured I would just start a post.. see where it goes.. and publish it (instead of saving for later and forgetting about it!).. the weather here in Riyadh is getting AMAZING... its Bar-b-que weather... sitting out in the garden with tea and coffee time... going out for lovely walks.. and hopefully fit in a trip to Salama Park (I have never been there yet.. but it looks lovely!). One of my favourite things to do here in Riyadh is to go out and drive.. (Ok.. I don't drive.. I sit in the passenger seat.. but u get the drift.) One of my fav places to check out is dir3iya.. I was saddened recently when I went there Camera in hand, and saw that the place I wanted was under construction.. (the old homes.. and the old palaces can be seen in ruins.. PERFECT)... we tried to find the new park thingy they opened at Wadi (whatever.. I 4get the last part of the name)... we drove and drove.. and drove.. and could not find it.. and my husband refused to stop and ask for directions.. (Typical!!!). Things are different now.. I used to go there often b4 I had kids.. but now with 3 kids under 4... there needs to be MAJOR planning in whatever I do. Its all good though.. its fun enough :) Anyway... I will leave you with a few pictures I took of the area around dir3iya... the farms... the place that used to be a lake.. its kinda nice.. different then hanging around indoors in Riyadh all the time :) Take care <3

I have more pictures... but I am having a hard time uploading them....

Oh Please Shut me up!

2011-10-23T18:31:00.000+03:00

Have you ever said somethign to someone.. and the moment it left your lips you felt like kicking yourself in the arse BIG time!! Wishing you could hide in some little black hole where no one could find you. The problem is.. before it comes out, it seems perfectly OK. Today I had an incident that made me feel just so! I was at the dentist at Kingdom Hospital with my kids, and I lady came in with her daughter. We began talking, and did the whole how many kids do you have, how old are they talk that usually occurs. Anyway, she mentioned that her son was 12, and her daughter was 6. And my dumb ass asked her, 'So are you trying for a third now?' her face went completely BLANK. I had to save myself, and explain it away - even though by that time I knew I should have shut up. I was like' your son is 12, your daughter is six, so if you're doing the whole waiting 6 years thing.. now would be the time. SOMEONE PLEASE SHOOT ME! Anyway... If the lady I said that to ever reads this? (Hard chance)... pls forgive my weird joke, I am on a diet, and am not thinking properly :)

I have had other times I wishes I was on a black hole; the day I asked a 12 (or was she 11) year old if she was pregnant- mind you she did look older (and was wearing 3baya and shayla), but her mother was mortified)... I don't blame her. The day I asked this nurse at the hospital how far along she was... ermmm... she at the very least laughed about it, and told me she hasn't ever had a baby, and was not pregnant, but that she gets that question all the time. I really need to observe, and think before I speak... ahhhh.. anyhoo.. once again.. I am veryyy sorry to anyone I met and said something inappropriate to.

Source- http://www.flickr.com/photos/criss_lost_in_space/3615029272/in/pool-867422@N24

Guns should be locked up or left out of a home...

2011-10-23T11:54:00.002+03:00

I was reading several 'news' articles today, and one link after another kept taking me to yet another accidental shooting by a child. My question would be; why are these guns not locked up? why are they loaded? why are they even in the house. Such stories are disturbing. Here are a few of the stories I read;

Source- http://2.bp.blogspot.com/-Q7UQ2mivuZc/Td2-uZn1GNI/AAAAAAAABho/bhMLD2Haapo/s1600/Weapon_Free_Zone_No_Guns_Allowed.gif
A Saudi eight-year-old boy accidentally killed his younger sister while playing with his father’s gun in the Gulf Kingdom, Kabar daily reported on Monday.

The boy pulled the trigger by mistake as he was playing with his sister at their house in the southwestern town of Mikhwat, the paper said.

“The shot directly hit the girl…she was rushed to a nearby hospital but she was already dead,” the paper added without specifying the girl’s age.

And another...

A Saudi child killed his one-year-old sister while he was playing with his father’s hunting rifle, 'Sharq' newspaper reported on Saturday.
The child, 5, found his father’s gun and started fiddling with it, not knowing it was loaded, the Arabic language daily said in a report from the central town of Madinah.
“He pulled the trigger and the shot hit his sister who was very close to him….she died instantly,” it said.

And another...

A Saudi child killed his 10-year-old brother while he was playing with his father’s machine gun during a picnic in Saudi Arabia, Okaz daily reported on Monday.

The 11-year-old boy had not realized that he had loaded the weapon when he aimed the gun at his brother and pulled the trigger during a picnic with their parents in the northern town of Qurayat, the paper said.
“Obviously it was an accident but we are talking to the child to know exactly what happened,” said Lt Colonel Turku Muwaishir, a police spokesman.

And yes there is more...

A six-year-old Saudi boy accidentally shot his teen age sister while playing with his father’s gun but doctors said she was improving, a newspaper in the Gulf Kingdom reported on Tuesday.

The boy in the central town of Makkah was fiddling with the gun he had found in his father’s room when he put his finger on the trigger and pulled, Shams said.

“The bullet hit his sister in the leg…she was rushed to hospital where she had treatment…doctors later said she was improving.”

These are so disturbing on so man levels.. my stomach hurts just thinking about it. i am not for guns, but I do believe if you will have such dangerous weapons in your home or around your children, you MUST keep them locked up, and you MUST keep them unloaded. These were all accidents that should not have happened. For the love of God, you job as a parent is to ensure your children are in a safe environment, that there is nothing around them that can harm them. the good old "Qadr Allah' should not be taken so lightly, it was YOUR bad judgement that has caused the event...

Source: http://www.barcoproducts.com/store/enlarge.asp?IMAGE=RSP265.jpg

*All the articles above were from Emirates247.com

PS for some odd reason I am unable to reply.. and I supposedly don'y have access or permission to comment on my own blog? *scratching my head*.. anyway YaMama... I replied to you in the comments... so let mer put it here :D

I completely agree with you! My husband thank GOD does not have a gun, but his father had several... the thought of being close to one freaks me out... (although I do want to go to a shooting range to let off some steam every once in a while:)

RIP Prince Sultan

2011-10-22T09:34:00.002+03:00

Life...

2011-09-12T12:27:00.001+03:00

I just got this link off a fellow blogger/Facebooker, and what can I say, it really rings true. The song speaks to me, and its soo real. I feel that life is truly a series of moments that we live. Time goes by, we learn, we grow, we move on. We make mistakes, we learn from those mistakes. We have different things we think about at each and every stage of life. We recreate and we start all over again... This can truly be an anthem for life.

Sometimes I feel like my heart is stuck at 18... that moment lives on inside me :) And if I couls speak to the 15 year old me, i would have told her that life is alright. Things did get better, life was not the end as she thought it was. And I would remind her to smile, and to live and love life <3 (at age 15 I stupidly tried to commit suicide... il7amdlilah it did not work!!!)

Enjoy!

Unable to reply to comments...

2011-09-11T19:15:00.003+03:00

For some odd reason, I am unable to reply to my comments, I am getting a msg saying that I don't have permission to comment (on my own blog!!) Weird eh?!

The War of Hatred....

2011-09-11T18:44:00.000+03:00

I remember on Tuesday September 11th 2001 around 9am working for a tele research company, and being told by the people who answered a plane just hit the building. I thought it was a joke, but after several more calls along the same lines, I left my desk and and watched everything unravel on a TV outside along Front street. I remember my initial instinct was to hope and pray, and hope and pray, that the people behind the attacks were not Muslim :(

My prayers are with all those affected by that incident, people who lost their lives in the US, in Iraq, in Afghanistan, and in countless other nations throughout the world. My prayers are with the people of Palestine that have been inflicted with never ending sorrow. My prayers are with the people around the world that are being affected by hate draped in many different disguises. I pray this war of Hatred ends, and that people see the purity within themselves.

May Allah Bless us All <3

May God bring Peace to Humanity! <3

And I wish everone a happy belated Eid <3

Mabrook 3laikum el shahar....

2011-08-02T09:17:00.000+03:00

Salam folks...

I just wanted to wish you all a blessed and healthy Ramadan. I pray that you and your loved ones have your fast and your good deeds accepted enshallah. So far on my end all is well, everyone is telling me not to fast, but I fasted yesterday and il7amdlilah had enough milk supply for my little baby, it was a little tough, running around feeding a pre-schooler, a toddler, and a baby without sticking something in my mouth was truly challenging.. lol.. My daughter usually likes to stuff things in my mouth, but I had to explain to her that mommy is fasting, and can not eat or drink till its dark out. Anyway, I will have to say bye for now, as I just came here to wish my readers a HAPPY RAMADAN :)

Till the next time enshallah... XOXOXO

BTW... I know I used to follow her a long time ago, but I am truly loving her blog again, if you haven't been there; Texan after UAE. Her writing has you unable to stop reading as a great novel would.. I found myself pouring over her blog whenever I had the chance (i.e. while BF my son)... I pray for her and her children <3 And although I do not know her personally, I do truly look up to how she is handling her life and situation! She is truly amazing!

Happy Birthday to my beloved....

2011-07-20T16:08:00.000+03:00

On this day 4 years ago, I grew more in one day then I did my entire life. In a matter of minutes, I went from putting myself first, to actually putting a new being before all else. Although my love for my mother was deep to begin with, it went to a whole new level. I understood and appreciated everything she did for me, the sacrifices in life that she had given into for us- her children. On this day 4 years ago, I welcomed my first baby, my beautiful, sweet, and caring daughter Lujain. Happy Birthday my dear, I love you more then words can ever describe.

My Baby All Grown up masha'allaaah <3

Long time no blog, and a footling breech...

2011-07-17T13:00:00.000+03:00

My Son Abdullah's... Feet... <3

Hello there folks...

I had the laugh of my life when I came to my blog today, It showed that I was 46 weeks 3 days pregnant! Can you imagine that! Being 46 weeks + pregnant! 40 is more then enough thank you very much! Anyway, I welcomed my son Abdullah to this wonderful yet sometimes scary world on June 1st 2011 il7amdlilah (now isn't that a pretty cool birthday? The first day of the month!). I had an interesting birth this time, as some may know, my baby was in a breech position, where his head was up, and his feet were down getting ready to run out of me perhaps? Anyway, for the last 3 weeks of pregnancy, I was told that I would have to have a C-Section. Something I truly did not want! The idea of getting cut, and having a real surgery was somewhat frightening to me! I tried everything to flip the baby over, and even made a song where my friends and family would sing over and over and over.... I tried to walk on all fours, I did the sujood position while swaying my hips back and forth. I tried to lay on my back, and keep my pelvis higher then my head... I tried practically tried to hang upside down, not an easy move for a heavily pregnant lady! lol I scrubbed the floor with my hands... My son simply wouldn't budge! He was nice and comfy rights where he was. My doctor tried to get me to schedule a C-Section, I refused, and told her that I would wait till I was in labour praying that my baby would make the move and simply flip once I was in labour. I was given June 3rd as the last date possible that they would wait for me, and that if labour did not progress, I would have to come in for my c-section. We discussed flipping the baby over manually as well, but seeing that I lost half my amniotic fluid by then, it was deemed impossible.

On June 1st, both my mother and elder sister arrived to Riyadh, they stayed at a hotel as my new house was not ready yet (I am living in it now though il7amdlilaah... with MANY MANY MANY annoying things happening daily- left for a whole post of its own) I got the kids ready, and went to the hotel at around 12pm. I was getting some discomfort, every once and a while, but nothing significant. As I was sitting, the pain got stronger, and stronger. It was at about 5 minutes apart, and then 4 minutes, and then 3 minutes, and the intensity only rising. I called my husband and told him that he needed to come ASAP, as I was in labour. We got the the hospital at around 2pm, and I was in tears, not because of the pain, but because I seriously did not want to have a c-section, something I was sure was going to happen! I was 'checked' in. The baby monitor strapped onto me, and the doctor came to check me. She announced that the baby was still head up and that they were prepping me for the c-section. She left, the nurses left, and only my mom was there with me. My sister was with my 2 other kids, and trying to keep them busy (mind you we were ALL in the labour room, and not once where my kids told to leave the room), but I am figuring this was the case as I would be taken to the Operating room, where the deed would be done. The pain was truly immense by then, and all I would do was recite the shahada over and over again.. (I am not a screamer as I don't think I will gain this magic super power but would rather lose all the energy I need to do the deed). I did my breathing patterns, was trying to relax and all the time trying to calm my daughter down, and let her know that mama was fine, and that her baby brother was going to join us soon enshallah. All of a sudden, I had this urge to push, I could not stop myself, and so I went with it.. PUSHING! I told my mom, and told her I could not stop, I had no control over it. She yelled for the doctor and midwife. They came running in, and checked me, shocked out of their mind that my sons toes had already made their entrance to the world! There was no turning back! They would have to deliver my son, a footling breech baby right away. il7amdlilah within minutes he was out and checked and was a perfectly healthy baby. I was still in shock that he came naturally, as for the last 3 weeks I was told over and over again that it was IMPOSSIBLE to deliver a footling breech baby naturally- I proved them WRONG il7amdlilah. The doctor later told me that she herself was a breech bab and delivered normally. She was given a yelling at for delivering the baby, but asked them if she was supposed to push my sons feet back in so they could cut me open! Anyway, il7amdlilah all went well, my son came out a healthy 3kg (ultrasound 2 weeks prior had him at 3.5kg...lol) He was a beautiful baby, and we all fell in love with him. I stayed in the hospital for 2 days, and thanked Allah every moment for accepting my du3a, NOT to have a C-section and for the baby to come out healthy.

On a side note, I still can't believe my children were not once made to leave the labour room, but my sister and mom took the initiative and took them out to the hall. Right after giving birth a good friend of mine and her 9 year old daughter walked into the labour room, and were not stopped either. I really think that was inappropriate for the staff, and that they should really do a better job at keeping people out. But it was nice having my friend there as well.

A week later I woke up in a pool of blood, right when I thought all was well.... I was suffering from MAJOR postpartum hemorrhaging... will go into it in my next post enshallah.. I have a baby crying, so I really need to get off.. till the next time enshallah... I have sooo much to blog about, and I promise I will get to it, not sure when, but I will get to it enshallah...

MIA

2011-04-19T12:30:00.000+03:00

Hello there folks...

Sorry I have been missing in action for a veryy long time.. Anyway, just wanted to say I am still alive... just haven't been in the 'mood' to blog. The thing is I have a LOT to say, but simply don't have the energy to go out and do it on the blog at least.. lol.. Anyway, I am still pregnant, baby is due end of May/beginning of June enshallah.. I pray it all goes smoothly. I will be out of the country for a couple of weeks, but will try my very best to try to at the very least blog once a week when I return. No promises, but I will realllly try to post something :)

Red Velvet Goodness,,,

2011-02-03T17:29:00.000+03:00

Last night I had the urge to bake, and since I had all the goodies I needed to make Red Velvet Cupcakes.... thats is exactly what I made... whats better then a cupcake with a hint of chocolate and thats red? With yummilicious icing to top it off... I love devouring mine with good old Strawberries.. Yummilicious!

Ingredients for cupcakes

2 1/2 cups flour
1/2 tsp salt
2tbs cocoa powder
1/2 cup butter at room temp
1 1/2 cup sugar
2 large eggs (or 3 medium ones)
1tsp vanilla
1 cup buttermilk (If u don't have it.. add 1 tbs of white vinegar OR lemon to a cup of milk.. and let set for 5- 10 minutes, you can also use Laban)
2tbs RED food colouring
1tsp white vinegar
1 tsp baking soda

Directions:

Pre heat oven to 375 and have your cupcake OR cake pans ready (greased)
Mix the flour, salt, cocoa powder, and baking soda.. set aside
Mix the butter with sugar, add the eggs one at a time, add the buttermilk
Mix the two together.. add the tsp vinegar, vanilla, and red food colouring... mix well..
Put into the pans.. and leave in oven for about 20-25 minutes for Cupcakes.. since this makes about 24 small cupcakes... I would suggest you check the cupcakes at 15 minutes on the second batch.

Ingredients for icing:

This time I used about 10 kiri packages (the small square ones)

about 1/3 cup butter

2 cups icing sugar

1tsp vanilla

Mix well till fluffy, and refrigerate till you are ready to use

For decorativeness, I used sugar with red food colouring and sprinkled it on top, served it with strawberries... and they were good to go!

Enjoy...

I also have a great recipe for red velvet whoopie pies, I will make them soon and post it here enshallah.

Saudi Roads...

2011-01-28T11:17:00.000+03:00


Picture Source: http://wgaw.blogspot.com/2010/09/driving-in-saudi-ladies-and-gents-lane.html

A depiction of how roads in Saudi will be once women are granted the right to drive :)

Complete Randomness...

2011-01-25T19:05:00.001+03:00

The Canadian embassy in Riyadh should look into hiring NATIVE english speakers instead of the crap they uselessly employ now. Heck, all English speaking foreign embassies need to do the same!

People should really learn how to deal with clients/patients. I believe that there should be more courses available, and they should be mandatory before they work.

Lebanon is in trouble!

The world is all screwed up!

I have reached the WOW you are pregnant stage in my pregnancy.

My son still only has 4 teeth and is 16 months old today (masha'allah).

My son needs a haircut!

My daughter has her very first zoo trip next week, and I am thinking I want to be part of it.

My house is getting there, lots of morons to deal with, but nevertheless things are finally being done!

I have a headache.

I made Batata ma7shi for the first time today, hope it tastes as good as it looks :)

I am itching to travel, I have been in Riyadh too long.

I need to order my maid, but I really am scared after my last experience :s

I miss coffee!

I miss coffee!

I miss coffee!

Gonna go get myself a piece of brownie I made last night at around midnight!

ll

Something Positive...

2011-01-17T11:30:00.000+03:00

I was doing my usual newspaper rounds online yesterday, when I read an article that caught my attention. It was a religious based article, and for once (in a long time), I saw something that made me happy, it was not the garbage about women not being able to work as cashiers, or about breastfeeding drivers, or any of the numerous other 'out there' issues that have been covered. this time it was a call to STOP supplications against non-Muslims. We have been hearing many sheikhs do nothing more then curse the non-believers, and for once, there was a different perspective put out there; the RIGHT one, the one that is truly based on Islam.

“These supplications are an aggression against non-Muslims,” said Al-Fouzan, who is also a member of the Saudi Human Rights Commission. “This is against the spirit of Islam. The imams should instead pray to Allah to guide them toward the path of righteousness,” said Al-Fouzan, while describing supplications against non-Muslims as unjust.

This is absolutely correct, the act of cursing or making dua against non-Muslims, is something that has always made me sick to the stomach.I have friends and family of many different faiths, and would personally hope for them to pray that they find the right path instead of damning them to hell. After all we are all the children of Adam (AS). We may have different sets of beliefs that we abide by, but we are all a creation of Allah (SWT). I have in the past personally STOPPED going to a mosque in Toronto for just that, every Friday, all the imam would do would curse Saudi, curse Non-Muslims, while wait for it... "HE WAS LIVING IN A 'NON-MUSLIM" country and raising his children there... pulease!

Anyway, read the rest of the article here; More scholars join calls for stopping supplications against non-Muslims .

Take care

XOXO

Only for Men!

2011-01-16T20:35:00.000+03:00

A while back I went to take my daughter to this play place. It was the first time I took her to a place that wasn't in a mall. Anyway while standing there, I saw this massage chair. And behind it a sign in Arabic stating; lil rejal faqat, meaning, 'For men only'. I was dumbstruck, I did not understand why a women could not use the chair, a part of me wanted to sit right down and see what would happen, but then again I am also a clean freak , and wasn't so sure about the cleanliness of the chair. It was situated in a play place for children, where parents come in and take the kids to play, so I really don't understand the problem with a mom needing a massage.

Here is another sign at the entrance

It's that time of the year again...

2011-01-16T11:25:00.000+03:00

It is that time of the year again, the time I used to enjoy sooo much as a young girl, the time I would plan my birthday party, have my friends over, and enjoy a day where it was all about me, myself, and I.

As I have grown ~~older~~ wiser, what can I say, I somehow have begun to it dread (just a bit till I had my great epiphany). Not because I am aging, (I AM STILL YOUNG AT HEART :D), but because I am not where I thought I would be in life. I thought I would have gotten so much more; but as a friend reminded me, I never planned to be married with kids till I was older, and getting married at 24 (young for abroad, but kinda old for Saudi.. lol) wasn't exactly part of my plan, I may have not become a big shot running some work place, or a doctor, or an engineer, or , or, or....

..... I am not where I wanted to be n life, I am where I now WANT to be in life. I have a lovely family, an amazing husband, the sweetest daughter anyone can ask for, the dearest baby son, and a little athlete doing carthweels in me :) This is what I want in life now, I am content, I am happy, and I am embracing my wiser self :)

And Happy Push day to the greatest mommy in the world, I haven't made your life easy, but just know that I will always love you, and I inspire to be what you were to me, a great mom, and an amazing person.

Charlotte: No no no

2011-01-11T18:49:00.000+03:00

This was too cute, I had to share it.. No No!

Frustration....

2011-01-06T00:57:00.000+03:00

I am truly frustrated, and don't want to go into all the details. But I am rather annoyed, I have a CLOSE family member talking about me to EVERYONE possible. I mean everyone. I have had at least 3 people come to me and tell me of the things being said about me, and whats frustrates me, is that NONE of it is true. NONE OF IT! Not even a bloody seed! I made it clear when being told this stuff, that I really was NOT interested in listening to any of it, and that I would NOT go into trying to defend myself, as it really is not my way to discuss personal issues or personal NON issues with others! Anyway, This post is to please remind people, NOT to backbite, not to make things up about people, and to always remember that GOD is watching, and you shall reap the rewards.

Picture Source: http://www.andreajlee.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2010/12/seller_frustrated_opt.jpg

Exhale

My 2011 bucket list

2011-01-01T11:32:00.000+03:00

Last year, I had many things that I wanted done, and I unfortunatly got next to none of them done. So this year, I will attempt to make a new list. Enshallah this year I will actually get some of them done.

Become a better mother to my children and a better wife to my husband
Make it through labour and welcome my new baby into this world
Make my new house, and actual home
Make a better effort with my friends and family
Remember to make 'just because I miss you' calls to close friends
Go to Toronto, New York, LA, and London
To lose weight after i have my baby
TO really lose weight after i have my baby :D
To host a party at my home for my good friends
To finally take the Wilton cake course
To meet some old friends, as well as new friends I have made in the blogeshpere
To once and for all get take Soda out of my life (I stopped it for 3 years prior to coming to Saudi, but something in this country makes one just want to drink Soda.. lol)
To trt to enforce a healthier lifestyle with my children
To take my kids to the park
To teach my daughter how to ride a bike
To teach my son how to ride a bike
To make more home cooked meals and eat LESS take out crap!
To make ice cream from scratch :)
To attempt to start my masters (this one is pushing it.. I just may have to re-add it to my 2012 list)
To practise my religion more (I don't know why its all the way at the end here, but it does mean a LOT to me!.
To make a difference to those around me
To smile more, and talk to random strangers like I used to before I came here

This is not the complete list, but as my son is sitting here hitting my laptop, I think it may mean he wants some time with mama.. lol.. So this is me tackling number one on my list already :D :D :D

Take care.. and God Bless <3

Here is to 2011...

2010-12-31T15:58:00.000+03:00

I would like to wish everyone a very Happy New Year, filled with new beginnings, wonderful health, and boundless success. Here is to 2011!!

Update on new visa requirement for Canadian Visiting the UAE

2010-12-27T16:03:00.000+03:00

Update on new visa requirement for Canadian passport holders visiting the United Arab Emirates

Regular passport holders who intend to travel to the UAE before January 2011 do not require a visa. Upon arrival, Canadians will receive a 30-day entry permit which may be extended for a limited amount of time.

As of January 2, 2011 a visa will be required for tourism and business purposes. Regular passport holders can obtain a visitor or tourist visa through hotels or travel agencies in the UAE or through the offices of Emirates or Etihad Airlines which also offer an online visa application.
Canadians travelling to UAE on business or visiting friends (not staying in hotels or travelling via Emirate or Etihad airlines) will require their sponsor (friend, family, or business contact) to apply for their visa from the UAE Ministry of Foreign Affairs. Once visa approval is obtained, the sponsor will be required to transmit a copy of the visa by email or fax to the Canadian traveler, who will pick up their original visa on arrival in the UAE.

Canadians transiting through the UAE will be able to obtain a transit visa at the airport upon presentation of travel documents indicating that they will leave the UAE within 96 hours to their onward destination.
All diplomatic and special passport holders, or persons travelling on blue passports for diplomatic business, must obtain their visa from the Embassy of the UAE before travelling to the United Arab Emirates.
Canadians (visitor, resident, etc) who travel without a visa and attempt to enter the UAE after January 1, 2011 will be denied entry to the UAE. This is a decision of the UAE government and neither the Canadian Consulate General in Dubai nor the Embassy of Canada in Abu Dhabi will be able to provide any assistance to these travellers at the port of entry.

Visa requirements are subject to change at any time. It is the traveller's responsibility to check with the Embassy of the United Arab Emirates for up-to-date information. Canadian travellers are also invited to check the travel report.

All grown up ...

2010-12-08T14:01:00.002+03:00

My Daughter has been sick for the last 5 days now, and has not gone to school. She always has a way of making me smile. Anyway, on Saturday her father left the iPad here for her to use, and the next day, he took it to his office. So come Sunday morning, she was up bright and early, desperatly searching for the iPad. She checks all the regular spots that we usually leave it, and then realises that it is not here. She puts the pieces together, and storms over to me, and we have the following conversation;

Her- Mommy, where is my iPad?
Me- It's not your iPad hon, its daddy's iPad.
Her- Mommy, I want my iPad now!
Me- You can't have it, its not here.
Her- I want to call daddy!
Me- Why?
Her- I want daddy to bring my iPad home NOW!

So I called for her, and this was the conversation between her and her dad

Her- Daddy, where is my iPad?
Him- *Chuckles* It's not yours.
Her- Daddy, bring my iPad home NOW.
Me- LuLu, say please.. (lol)
Her- Daddy, PLEASE bring my iPad home NOW!
Him- *Laughs*, I'll bring it for you when I am done work.

So my 3 year old daughter already has her daddy wrapped around her little finger. I have yet to see him say NO to her.. lol

On another note, I was sitting there washing my face, and doing my usual routine. My daughter walks in, and looks at me and says. 'Mommy, you are Beautiful.'. My heart melted, it was such a sweet thing for her to say, I immediatly picked her up, hugged her, and told her she was the most beautiful person in the world.

She is growing up, and is continously putting smiles on my face. I love how she is really her own little person now, with her own opinions, and all. I pray that she grows into the beautiful person I know she will become enshallah. I love her to pieces

The loves of my life <3

XOXO

l

Alf Mabrook ya Q8!

2010-12-06T18:46:00.000+03:00

Picture Source: http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_JUfBbVlJk-s/TPw2nfIcB3I/AAAAAAAABmU/hKPDXoF9q18/s1600/alazraq_flyer2.jpg

Last nights final match for the Gulf Cup was between Saudi Arabia, and Kuwait. Although my allegiance was with Saudi, I still have a soft spot for Kuwait. After all it was the country I spent my teenage years in, and grew to love like my own. So, I would like to send a heartfelt CONGRATULATIONS to the people of Kuwait. It was a win well deserved. I remember the last time Kuwait won back in 1996, I was living in Kuwait, and enjoyed partying with the rest of the country, young and old, male and female; it was beautiful, it was amazing to see these very different people flood the streets with joy and happiness for one team, one country :) . I still have the cassette they gave away in the streets featuring Abdullah Rowaished singing 'Oooh Ya Kuwait' (that may not be the official name of the track). It was a beautiful time, and the memories are great. So alf Mabroook yal Azrag, Mabroook to the people of Kuwait, oo a win for you, is a win for us all :)

Let US put an END to Legalized Pedophilia!

2010-12-05T20:12:00.001+03:00

There are many wrongs made right in this society. There are too many issues that truly make my stomach turn, but this is one that is even worst then most of the awful things women are forced to accept and live with. The difference here is that it is NOT women who are being forced into this disgusting act, but mere children. A child as tender as 8 being forced to marry a man that could easily be her father/grandfather and in some cases a GREAT grandfather, all for financial, or emotional control. It is a sick act that must be stopped. The society has turned a blind eye to many wrongs, but this is our children that are in harms way, OUR children that are being raped under the guise of a legal union. We need to stand up and force the government to recognize this as a wrongful act that needs to be changed. It is time NOW to stop elderly men from taking children as trophy wife. A young girl is NOT physically, mentally or emotionally ready or capable to be forced into such a life. We need to allow our daughters to be children. I sit here and look at my 3 year old daughter, I could not imagine the heart of a parent who allows a child 5 years her senior or even 10 years her senior to be wed to a ancient man. rules need to be placed. I have no issue with a 16 year old marrying an 18 year old, but I do have an issue with a 16 year old marrying a 50 year old!

A friend and fellow blogger Eman Al Nafjan from Saudi Womans Weblog has started a campaign fighting this very issue. I would hope and urge that all of you would go right over and sign the petition to urge the Saudi Minister of Justice to put an end to this act. Many people have argued that this is not happening that much, and that the few cases in the media are the minority, moreover saying that most Saudi's are against the act. But without a law forbidding it, it will go on. Even one child forced into a marriage with a grown man is wrong, please let us put a stop to it.

This is a radio interview with Eman Al-Nafjan on this topic. Saudi Arabia’s campaign against child brides

Older posts on this topic- No to Minor Marriage

In the news:

Furore continues over Saudi child marriage
Saudi Judge Refuses to annul 8 year old's marriage
Saudi official moves to regulate child marriages
Child marriage case showcases deep splits in Saudi society

Trust...

2010-11-24T16:27:00.002+03:00

In a perfect world, one can trust anyone. They can trust their neighbour, their classmates, their family, their friends, and just about anyone, because in a perfect world, one human being would not want to willingly hurt another.

But we all know that we live in a place far from perfect, a place where some peoples happiness is solely based on another's grief. A place where one can not trust anyone anymore, because many people have their own twisted agenda to get what they want in life, not really caring about others. As a young girl, I learnt quickly that not all people can be trusted. I learnt that a friend of my uncles who I considered a friend to me, tried to rape me with the guise that only a bad girl would allow someone in their house. He was a family friend, I trusted that he would respect my family, and honour. But that did not happen, thank God nothing happened to me, I was strong enough to kick this fellow out of our house, and out of our lives. I just wish at times that the shame game didn't keep me quiet. I wish I exposed his evil ways, but I didn't want any part in the blame game. At an even younger age (think about 4), I was molested by a family member, that I was entrusted to, that was supposed to take care of, that was supposed to keep me safe, that as a woman you would think should have had the motherly instinct in her, but lest we forget, nobody is to be trusted. I don't know how my post took this direction, but I will allow it to stay that way. It was a nightmare to me for many years, but when I entered my teenage years, the memories came back rushing in. I was mortified, I remember what triggered this memory, but I would rather not mention it as it is of a delicate matter. I remember keeping to myself, but nobody noticed as I was the middle child, and was known to stick with my books and read on my own. When I did build up the courage, it was found out that I was not the only person who suffered in the hands of that person. But guess what? Nothing was done about it. I have longed to confront that person, just so that she would know that she did not get away scotch free. I was disgusted to know that this person was now in charge of caring for her own child. I have always wondered if that little boy, now in his teenage years suffered at the hands of such an evil mother. Again, my parents apologized to me and were saddened that such a thing could happen to me, but nobody confronted her, no one chose to be my advocate. I wonder now, how many people suffer in the hands of family, and its gently swept under the rug, so that outsiders will not know what is happening behind closed doors, and thus shame will not be brought to the family.

Now as a mother, I have the hardest time trusting anyone with my children, I fear that even those I love and cherish the most may take advantage of a child that can not fight or even properly talk back. I know I can not have my child around me 24/7. In the perfect world, I would never have to worry about such evil, but in a time that trust is no longer fully available, what does a parent do? I often wonder how I can teach my children that such things are not appropriate, and that if anyone ever touches them or vice versa it is wrong. My children as still young and innocent, and a part of me wants to keep them that way, to allow them to believe that this world is perfect, that evil does not exist. That all people genuinely care for one another.

I think I have gone too long here, and still can't understand why I even blogged about such a personal matter to me. But I will not hit the delete button I have a sudden urge to, but will allow this to be published.

Random Pics of Riyadh- taken 2007

2010-11-24T11:53:00.001+03:00

Faisaliya Tower

Interior Ministry

Mamlaka Tower

Olaya Road

More Roads

Waterlemon before Cafeblanc opened next door

Random

Lovely Spot

All of the above Pictures were taken by Me.

A wake up call is needed....

2010-11-21T13:27:00.000+03:00

Many have probably heard of the recent torture of maids in the kingdom. There have been two cases this week, both of Indonesian nationals who have rocked the nation. The brutal torture of a maid in Madinah (funnily known historically for having the kindest of people); 23-year-old Sumiati BT Salan Mustapa. She was beaten beyond recognition, and burnt with an iron, has had her lips cut off, and endless other types of torture my stomach cannot even handle.

Sumiati BT Salan Mustapa; Before and after

Source: http://musesephere.blogspot.com/

There is also the other sad incident of a slain Indonesian maid- Kikim Komalasari, 36- found dumped on the road side in Abha, her Sponsors; a Saudi husband and wife, have been arrested for this heinous crime.

The agressors in both cases are evil. I do not blame it on being a Saudi, as I have seen many Saudis that treat their maids with dignity and respect, and that have welcomed them into their homes with compassion. I blame this on sick human beings that have zero respect for others. Sick human beings that have been taught that they are above the law. Sick human beings that show zero regard for those less fortunate, and have sadly welcomed the maids into their homes as they would a new household appliance- sadly the appliance would get more respect in the household then some of these maids. I would like to understand what has pushed these people to commit such horrendous acts. Where did they leave their religion, and what our Prophet (PBUH) has taught us about the treatment of others? Have they just taken whatever suits them and left the rest to rot? It is sad that these sick people are tainting an entire nation and the many wonderful citizens they have. If one is unhappy with their maid, they can just send her home, and hope for a better one to come their way. Why must people resolve to cruel and unusual punishment? I truly believe that these people should be put on public display and should be severely punished. A life for a life should be put in order. Let them be examples of what this countries people, and judicial system will no longer tolerate. Let the fear of what goes around comes around be a reality. No one should be above the law, as no one should be below the law. At the end of the day, we are all humans, and should be justly dealt with, without even the slightest thought of race, nationality or colour. I do hope that for the sake of this great country, justice will be served, and no one gets away with murder or torture.

Excuse me.... Wee :)

2010-11-17T13:58:00.000+03:00

Here is a short conversation I had with my daughter this morning;

Her: Mommy is Wee open?
Me: I am not sure dear
Her: Mommy it's closed!
Me: How do you know love?
Her: Daddy closed it!
Me: How do you know daddy closed it?
Her: He told Excuse me to close it!
Me: Do you want me to tell Excuse me to open it for you?
Her: Yes mom, I want to go to wee today.

Transalation of what my daughter REALLY means.. :)

Wee: Malahi, al3ab, play place they usually have at malls here. She started calling it this when she was a little over one, it was the first time she was on a slide, and whenever she went down, she would joyfully say, weeeee, and well from then on, anytime she is playing on anything, she calls them all wee, and I love it too much to correct her :D

Excuse me: Anyone who serves people, i.e, Waiters, store clerks, etc. As when I speak to them, I don't say the usual 'Mohammed' everyone here seems to name them, and I tend to say 'Excuse me', so my daughter has figured out that all their names are now.... Excuse me :D

I love the pure innocence of little children... sometimes I wish I could just freeze them at this age for a bit, as I am terribly dreading the teenage years (that for some reason now begins at 8 now!!!!)

ll

3idkum Embarak....

2010-11-15T21:47:00.000+03:00

This is my sons favourite commercial, so I thought I would share it. I wish you and your loved ones a happy and blessed 3id.

Little Belgian boy saluting Canadian Troops

2010-11-12T12:34:00.000+03:00

My emotional Roller Coaster

2010-11-10T22:40:00.000+03:00

Well, I have found myself on an emotional roller coaster... one second I am happy, the next I hate the world.. lol.. but the truth is.. I really don't hate it... I don't like seeing things in black and white. I would rather add some colour. So to add to my last post, I would like to continue and say not everything in Saudi is negative for women. There are some things that I rather enjoy. It would be unfair of me to paint it all black when there are in fact hues of different colours shining through. Things are changing, King Abdullah has been a great leader, and is truly moving this country to a more positive light (may Allah bless him, and may he live a long and healthy life.. ameen). I have seen change in this country since I first arrived, as my mom has seen change from her youth to today. It may not all be done in a day, but as the saying goes, Rome wasn't built in a day. I would like to be present for positive change to come to Saudi, I would love to be here when we drive for instance. I would love to see this country move forward whilst holding on to its in many ways beautiful culture. Anyway, there is not much more to add. I just wanted to be fair, and not only focus on the negative aspects of Saudi society. There is good and bad, just as there is good and bad all over the world. I love this country, it is home. And I pray that one day we will be treated as equals as our great religions has made it.

With Peace, Love and Respect

ll

The March for Saudi Women...

2010-11-09T13:29:00.004+03:00

The March for Saudi Women

Deep seeded frustration ...
Dreams of a brighter future in the distance..
Abhorrence for the life they have been forced into...
Unaware of what life is truly about...
Guarded like a foetus for eternity...
No room to truly blossom to your fullest...
Always reaching out into the mirage of what society has provided...
Listening to lies, and waiting silently...
Fear of speaking out ...
Bringing shame to the family name...
Frustration for what has not become...
How long will the women of Saudi remain silent?
When will the march for freedom begin?

When can I join the March of Freedom for the women of Saudi?
Should we wait to join? or shall we start the march alone.
Will women of this blessed country stand up and march for freedom?
Or will the shame game keep them oblivious, silent and seated?

March for Saudi women !

Driving Rant!

2010-11-09T12:51:00.000+03:00

I am in a serious ranting mood today... So let me just say here.. if you don't feel like reading about some rants, you can just skip right on over to the next blissfully happy bloggers blog :)

OK.... so my rant will naturally begin with us women and driving in Saudi. Yes I know, this rant is ~~universal~~ - OK, National as this is the only country in the entire world that says someone can't drive MERELY because they were born with an inny not an outy! If you don't know what I mean... then think a bit, and it should hit you!

As I sit silently in my husbands car watching as every car that drives by is driven by a man, it could be a husband, or a driver. The cars that have drivers, are usually tinted black so that other drivers can't see the woman folk inside. Don't get me wrong, dark windows have helped me breastfeed my babies without a care in the world. But what I really can't get into my head, is how in the world it is deemed safer and more permissible in Islam for a women to sit with a NON- related male in her car alone at times (remember when a man and a women are alone the third person there is the devil...). Yet a women is NOT allowed to drive herself around. Some men (and women) may argue that this is for the safety of the women folk, for surely a women can not take care of herself, and is seen as meat waiting to be devoured by every single man that sees her. I don't believe that is even close to the reason, I believe it is more about Control. Control. Control. Control.

A women can not step out of her house without some man taking her out, whether it is her husband/brother/father/driver/ some random taxi driver. In essence we are to bow down to any man in order to get anything done. It is extremely frustrating, when you see children driving because they were born with that oh so worshipped outy! And a women who has driven around the world is not seen as being fit to be behind the wheel. What bothers me even more is all the rumours that keep circulating claiming that women will be driving in a couple of months, by the end of the year at the very latest.

Saudi Arabia is to lift the ban on women drivers in an attempt to stem a rising suffragette-style movement in the kingdom.

Women in the only country in the world which still bans women from driving want to put their best foot forward – on the accelerator.

I see all this as nothing more then smoke, to keep us women from actually doing something about our position in this male worshipped society. I will clarify, that it has nothing to do with religion and EVERY BLOODY THING to do with men using TRADITION to keep women prisoners psychologically. I am talking from personal experience here, that ever since I have been here, I truly feel like I have lost a bit of myself every single day. I once used to be a bubbly, fun, outgoing, full of adventure kinda gal. And now, I have a hard time doing anything alone (for the most part because in this lovely country, women are usually not allowed into many places for fear of arousing men by our mere presence). I am sick of people claiming that we are treated like princesses here, because that is not the case, what is the point of being treated like a princess, when you are being treated like a 3 year old one? Last night my daughter told me she wanted to drive, and I told her.. 7abeebti, you are too young, when you're older enshallah. Deep inside I pray that by the time she is of driving age, that she will not be subject to this sexist state we women are forced to live in, I pray that she will be of the new era, where they are allowed to dream, where they are allowed to want a better Saudi without fingers pointing at them and accusing them of hating the country I know we all love.

Here is an article on how the ban is also affecting the men in our family. I do agree with this as well, because due to this moronic ban, our husbands/sons/brothers/ etc must also become our drivers... I know my husband would love it, if I could go out and run a few of the errands without him. I know there is always a driver, but it is simply not the same. Being able to go where ever you want whenever you want is simply not possible even with a driver. The only way out of this rut is for the ban to end, once and for all. And I truly believe that maybe, just maybe the only way it will end is if we as the women of this country, stand up and let our voices be heard. (can you hear the music playing)

Many husbands, brothers and fathers will rejoice if the king lifts a ban on women driving
RIYADH, Saudi Arabia — It’s 5 p.m. on a weekend and Faisal Auda is at the wheel of his 2005 bright green Chevy Optra. Two of his five sisters are in the back seat.
They’re on Riyadh’s Ring Road, headed for IKEA. The women’s shopping list includes mirrors, lamps, and bath mats, and since they’ve been aiming to get to the popular store for three months, Sabah, 22, and Nora, 20, are piling up the purchases.

Alright, I think I need to stop right there, I won't even bother to reread what I just wrote, and just have my fingers crossed that my fingers caught up with my brain and that I actually make some sort of sense here.

Take care!

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The diaper change disaster...

2010-11-06T16:41:00.000+03:00

I know its been quite a long time, but something happened yesterday that I HAD to blog about.

Do you remember this blog post 'Toilet Fun'.

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Well let's call this one diaper disaster! My daughter was invited to a birthday party yesterday, so I took her, and let my husband take care of our son for a few hours. It was kind of nice, to just be caring for Lujain, as she is older now, and it gave me time to socialize while just keeping a discreet eye on her from afar. She had a blast! Anyway, a couple of hours into the party, I get a frantic call from my husband, blabbering about something to do with the washroom. I was like slow down, whats wrong hon? He replied Mansour did number 2! And I calmly just said, well get to it, change his diaper, and he was like.. its not the hard one.. its kind of messy, and I was like, well go wash him, its a no brainer to me, rather simple. He gave up on me, and said, OK, let me go do something about it.

Anyway, after the party, my hubby and son came to pick me up, and my son looked rather good, and I was suprised my husband did a good job at getting him dressed and shoes back on in such a cool manner. He then admitted to me, that he called for his sister, and made her help him... he claims she only put on his socks and shoes . Later when I got home, his sister was laughing her head off, and telling me how my husband was screaming for her frantically as if something big happened. Only to see it was a simple diaper change issue.. my husband supposedly placed my son in the bath and spraid him down with the shower head . Now I am not sure what happened next, as my husband says he finished the diaper change, and only got his sister to put my sons socks and shoes on for him, but another little birdy told me differenttly.. lol

Banana Oat Muffins

2010-11-01T12:10:00.000+03:00

I am a huge fan of banana cakes, muffins. I usually make this delicious banana cake in which

I am pretty famous for in my circle of friends and family :) But I found this variation on it to

be a perfect breakfast muffin. The texture is amazing, and it is filling in a not so guilty manner.

Banana oat muffins
 
1 1/2 cup all purpose flour
1 cup quaker oats
1/3 sugar
2 tsp baking powder
1 tsp baking soda
1/2 tsp salt

2 eggs

1/4 cup vegetable oil

1/2 cup milk
1/2 tsp vanilla
1 cup mashed banana

Topping

Cinnamon and powdered sugar

Preheat oven to 200 degrees Celsius

Combine flour, quaker, sugar , baking soda/powder, salt.

Beat eggs lightly. Stir in milk, oil, vanilla.

Add mashed banana. Stir flour mix into banana mixture.

Line 12 muffin pans.

Bake 18-20 min

Allow to cool, and sprinkle with the powdered sugar

and cinnamon.

Serve and Enjoy :)

PS I got this recipe from allrecipes, but made some variations to it.

Podge?

2010-11-01T11:26:00.000+03:00

Well, I haven't gained, and I haven't lost either. After being soooooo bloody hopeful of losing this baby podge, who am I kidding? It's a whole lot more then mere podge. Anyway, I have gone and done it again, and my intense weight loss campaign will have to be on hold for a while longer. It's all good, I am blessed, but I fear what I will become :( Walking is still in the picture, the treadmill better come in the picture, or I will be an extremelty hormonal lady raging throughout this city I call home :)

Anyhoo, will keep y'all updated on what becomes of me in the next few months.

Take care :)

Rainbow Cupcakes

2010-10-13T20:20:00.000+03:00

Ingredients

1 1/2 cups flour
1 3/4 tsp baking soda
pinch of salt

1 cup white sugar
1/2 cup butter
1/2 cup milk
2 eggs

Preheat oven to 375

Directions

Mix eggs with a mixer till fluffy, add the butter, then the sugar. Add the milk to the mix. Add the flour and baking soda and salt. Add Vanilla

Now to add the colour. Separate the mix into how many different colours you want. I used green, red, blue, orange and yellow. Once you separate, add the food colouring to the different batches.. I leave one as the white cake. You will spoon the different colours into each of the cupcakes you will be making (12 cupcake pan)... and you will continue to spoon in the different colours into each one till you finish all the cupcake mix you have.

Place into oven and bake for about 20-25 minutes...

Let it cool on a cooling rack, put the frosting on, decorate, and serve :)

Enjoy

Ooey Gooeyyy Chocolate Chip Cookies...

2010-09-29T16:27:00.000+03:00

Thick, chewy, and Oh so delicious! Thats what comes to mind whenever I bake these cookies. Once again, they may be so good, you will need to toss them in the garbage.. Waste NOT waist right ;)

Ingredients

2 Cups flour
1/2 tsp salt
1/2 tsp baking soda
1/2 cup melted butter
1 egg
1 egg yolk
1 cup brown sugar
1/2 cup granulated white sugar
1tsp vanilla

1 cup chocolate chip cookies

Preheat oven @ 325 degrees f

Directions

Mix flour, salt, and baking soda- set aside
mix eggs brown sugar, and white sugar, butter
Add vanilla
Add the flour mix, until you get a nice cookie dough
Add chocolate chips

Put into balls set in baking tray, and put in freezer for about 5 minutes, put into preheated oven and allow to bake for 15-17 minutes.

This usually makes about 36 cookies, and I usually like to take half of it, and leave it in the freezer for another day :)

Enjoy

I have been baking these for a couple of years now... and they are always a winning combination, and people always ask for recipe, seconds, or both :)

Google.com celebrates Saudi National Day :)

2010-09-23T00:56:00.001+03:00

Google.com celebrates Saudi National Day :)

Happy Saudi National Day

2010-09-23T00:30:00.000+03:00

Happy Saudi National Day All.. Have a great day <3

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Brownies so good, you need to throw them out!

2010-09-23T00:19:00.000+03:00

Did I mention these are easy, delicious.. AND EASY! I am tellin gyou, i have made MANY brownies that had a lot of work involved.. these are easy.. and DELICIOUS! And yes, they are so bloody good you need to throw them out so you don't gain too much weight!

I found it on allrecipes.com ... and OH MY GOD I AM ON LOVE!!!

TIP- The trick here is NOT to over mix it.. mix it by hand! and I promise you, you can NOT fail! Yummilcious!

This pictures gives them no justice!

Brownies

1/2 cup butter
1 cup white sugar
2 eggs
1 tsp vanilla extract
1/3 cup unsweetened cocoa powder
1/4 tsp salt
1/2 cup flour
1/4 tsp baking powder

Icing

3 tbs butter softened
3 tbsp unsweetened cocoa powder
1 tbsp honey
1 tsp vanilla extract
1 cup confectioners sugar

Preheat oven to 350 f (175c)

Melt butter in saucepan, remove from heat, stir in sugar, eggs, 1 tsp vanilla. Beat in 1/3 cocoa, 1/2 cup flour, salt, baking powder. Spread into prepared baking pan. 25-30 min.

Icing

Combine all the ingredients and frost brownies while still warm.

Serve alone, with ice cream, or whipped cream.

Enjoy

PS- They taste even better the second day! Yummy!

No Title...

2010-09-22T15:06:00.000+03:00

Hello there my fellow bloggers and blogerretes! How has life been treating you? How was the end of a long summer? How was your Ramadan? Eid celebrations? I hope all was well.

On this side this is a few things that have happened....

I traveled for a few days this Eid, and had a nice change of weather... Felt a bit of freedom; although very short lived.

My daughter has become a very talkative little one, and wants to talk to anyone that she see's , and loves to tell people things abut our personal life. hmmm.. now I need a way to train her NOT to.. lol.. but I must admit its kinda cute.. especially since a few months ago, i was going crazy wanting her to talk.. and worried that she was simply not talking enough :)

My son, is nearly 1, and I am trying to plan his Mickey Mouse club house themed party. I do have a few issues.. as I want to invite friends and family... husbands, wives and children. But as many may be aware its not really easy to have mixed parties here as some people will not attend. And I am honestly not bothered to plan 2 separate parties.. we shall see how it works out.. the house is more then big enough to hold many groups of people, but what happens with the pictures of the birthday cake? which group gets to cut the cake? who gets to witness my daughter blow out her brothers candles (I already know she will be doing the blowing.. lol)

I have been on a cooking, and baking rampage... and am actually enjoying it.

My weight-loss has stopped, as I have stopped working out... but I will back up and at it again...:)

Anyway.. my question today is... Gas or Electric Stove top? I have only ever really cooked on Electric, but some of the die hard cooks out there swear that Gas stoves make food taste better... what do you think?

Last note.... am I the only one who feels like she is stuck in her teenage years? I swear I still feel like I am 19! And I remember thinking that being in your 30's was old and ancient before! Whats happening??? Am I in age denial?

Saleeg

2010-09-18T19:31:00.000+03:00

Ingredients

2 cups Egyptian Rice
4 cups water
I usually tend to use chicken breast, and its about 2 full chicken breast into 4 pieces.
about 6-8 cardamon pods
1 cinnamon stick
1tsp salt
1tsp black or white pepper
1/2 tsp cardamon powder (yes I love cardamon)
3tbsp butter
1 1/2 cups fresh milk (i use either low fat or the vital milk)
mistaka (A few pieces ground)

Directions

Put Everything above (except the butter, milk, mistika, and rice) into a pot and boil. When chicken is cooked, remove from water.

Broil chicken till golden brown (put whatever spices you like on it)

Add the rice to the water mixture, let boil for about 45 minutes till soft tender and veryyy mushy.

When rice is done, add the butter, milk and mistaka. Leave on stove for about 15-40 (I tend to leave it on longer, as my husband loves it very soft) minutes till desired tenderness and texture.

Pour into service dish, place chicken on top. (try to remove the cardamon and cinnamon while ur at it)

Tip- If you have the rice Maggi, you can use it instead of the spices

The side hot sauce

2 tomatoes and 2 chili peppers, salt and pepper. Blend and voila, you can enjoy your saleeg with some hot sauce.

PS- In this pic, I didn't broil the chicken, and just cut it up into small pieces

Kusa Ma7shi

2010-09-16T16:18:00.000+03:00

Kusa Ma7shi

8 zuchinni with inside removed

1/2 lb ground beef

1/2 cup White rice
3 tsp minced garlic
1- 1 1/2 tsp salt
1/2 tsp ground black pepper
1 tsp dried mint
2 tbsp tomato paste
4 cups water

2 Maggi cubes
Parsley
 
In large bowl mix ground meat, rice,  half the garlic amount,

1 tbsp salt, 1/4 tsp ground pepper.

In large pot add tomato paste, water,

salt and Maggi cubes and bring to a simmer.

Spoon in rice stuffing to the zuchinni

Add remaining garlic and mint to sauce.

Place the zuchinni in the  
the sauce. Cook for about 45minutes
Let sit in pot for about 30 min.

Garnish with parsley.

Serve and Enjoy

Pizza/hotdogs in a blanket/mini zaatar croissants

2010-09-16T16:10:00.000+03:00

Fatayer dough

2 cups flour

1 tbs yeast

1/2 tsp salt

1 tbs sugar

2 tbsp oil

2 tbsp powdered milk

1/2- 1 cup Luke warm water

Add yeast to water, set aside for 5-10 minutes to disolve

Mix flour, salt, sugar, oil, and powdered milk.

Knead in the yeast mixture to the flour mixture till dough forms.

Place in a warm spot loosely covered for about an hour.

Pizza- Roll the dough, cut out small circles with a cup, spread with pizza sauce, mozzarella cheese

Hot-dog- Roll dough, cut into triangle, place small hotdog's in the middle, and pinch dough towards the center

Mini Zaatar croissants- Roll dough, cut into triangles, put Zaatar in the middle of the cut dough, roll over in croissant shape, and sprinkle zaatar on top.

Bake for about 15 minutes...

Serve, Enjoy :)

Danderma's Muhalabiya

2010-09-16T15:45:00.000+03:00

Danderma's Muhalabiya
 
3 Cups Milk
3 tbsp Corn Starch
1 tsp Ground Cardamon
Rose Water
5 tbsp Sugar
Pistachios
Saffron strands
 
Heat dash of rose water in microwave, add saffron
Hear 2.5 cups low fat vital milk
Add sugar to milk
In separate bowl mix corn starch to 1/2 cup milk. Whisk well.
Add the starch mix to milk when hot not boiling.
When mixture thickens add the saffron rose water and cardamon.
Mix well and leave on heat for 5 min.
Pour into serving bowls, garnish with pistachios. Put in fridge to set  
for a few hours. Enjoy :)

9kg in 3 month

2010-09-16T15:29:00.000+03:00

Yup... 9kg at 3 months is 3kg a month... I suck!

I have reached only half the weightloss I planned to. Ramadhan saw no workouts, but a 2 kg weight loss.. so that wasn't as bad as I thought (I was sure I would GAIN weight.. lol)..

So..... I still have a long way to go. I will continue the walk away the pounds, meal portions. I have yet to get the treadmill I sooo NEED, so when that finally arrives in my humble abode I will be one happy camper. My BIG behind needs some major work :)

I am out for now... and till the next post.. happy weight loss, and a more happy complete life to all <3

Gone for a bit...

2010-08-25T16:38:00.000+03:00

It's time for me to reflect... and I will not be blogging for a bit.. take care...

Bold if True

2010-08-24T19:00:00.005+03:00

From Musesephere

For some reason it won't let me bold some of them. so I Purple'd them instead :D

Bold if true:

I am a cuddler.

I am a morning person.

I am an only child.

I am currently in my pajamas.

I am currently pregnant.

I am currently single.

I am currently suffering from a broken heart.

I am left handed.

I am married.

I am addicted to my myspace.

I am online 24/7, even as an away message.

I am a little shy around the opposite gender at first.

I bite my nails.

I can be paranoid at times.

I don’t like anyone.

I enjoy country music.

I enjoy jazz music.

I enjoy smoothies.

I enjoy talking on the phone.

I have a car.

I have a cell phone.

I have/had a hard time paying attention at school.

I have a hidden talent

I have a lot to learn

I have a pet.

I have a tendency to fall for the “wrong” guy/girl

I have all my grandparents

I have at least one brother

I have been to another country

I have been told that I am smart

I have been told that I have an unusual sense of humor

I have OR HAD broken a bone

I have Caller I.D. on my phone.

I have changed a diaper

I have changed a lot over the past year.

I have done something illegal.

I have friends who have never seen my natural hair color

I have had major/minor surgery.

I have killed another person

I have had my hair cut within the last week.

I have mood swings

I have no idea what I want to do for the rest of my life

I have rejected someone before.

I have seen The Lord of the Rings trilogy.

I have seen the television show The O.C.

I like Shakespeare.

I like the taste of blood.

I love to cook.

I like to sing.

I love Michael Jackson

I love sleeping.

I love to play computer games.

I love to shop.

I miss someone right now.

I own 100 CDs or more

I own and use a library card

I read books for pleasure in my spare time.

I sleep a lot during the day.

I strongly dislike math

I watch soap operas on a regular basis.

I will try almost anything once.

I work at a job that I enjoy.

I would classify myself as ghetto.

I would get plastic surgery if it were 100% safe, free of cost, and scar-free.

I am currently wearing socks.

I am tired.

I love to paint/draw/sketch/sculpt.

I have had/have a broken heart

Graduated High School.

Smoked cigarettes.

Rode every ride at an amusement park.

Collected something really stupid.

Gone to a rock concert.

Helped someone.

Gone fishing.

Watched four movies in one night.

Gone long periods of time with out sleep.

Lied to someone.

Been dumped.

Failed a class.

Taken a college level course.

Been in a car accident.

Been in a tornado.

Watched someone die.

Been to a funeral.

Burned yourself. (accidentally)

Ran a marathon.

Your parents got divorced.

Cried yourself to sleep.

Spent over $200 in one day.

Flown on a plane.

Cheated on someone.

Been cheated on.

Written a 10 page letter.

Gone skiing.

Been sailing.

Cut yourself.

Had a best friend.

Lost someone you loved.

Shoplifted something.

Been to jail.

Had detention.

Skipped school.

Got in trouble for something you didn’t do.

Stolen books from the library.

Gone to a different country.

Dropped out of school.

Been in a mental hospital.

Watched the “Harry Potter” movies.

Had an online diary.

Fired a gun.

Gambled in a casino.

Had a yard sale.

Been in a school play.

Been fired from a job.

Taken a lie detector test.

Swam with dolphins.

Gone to sea world.

Attempted suicide.

Voted for Pop Idol.(Arabic Super Star or Star Academy)

Written poetry.

Read more than 20 books a year.

Gone to Europe.

Loved someone you couldn’t have.

Had surgery.

Had stitches.

Taken a taxi.

Seen the Washington Monument.

Had more than 5 IM’s/online conversations going at once.

Had a drug or alcohol problem.

Been in a fist fight.

Suffered any form of abuse.

Had a hamster.

Petted a wild animal.

Used a credit card.

Gone surfing in California.

Dyed your hair.

Got a tattoo.

Had something pierced.

Got straight A’s.

Your parents sent you to a shrink.

Been handcuffed.

Known someone with HIV or AIDS.

Taken pictures with a webcam.

Started a fire.

Had a party while your parents weren’t home.

Gotten caught having a party while they were gone.

Whomever happens upon this post can also go right on ahead and do it... Just bold whatever applies to you :)

ll

The people of Pakistan NEED our help!

2010-08-18T11:00:00.002+03:00

Hello All,

I would like to pass on this message I received from a friend in hopes that you may also be able to help in this effort to do something for the people of Pakistan. If you are in Saudi, please read on. I pray that you will be able to help in this urgent relief effort by a wonderful lady here in Riyadh.

Thank you.

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Dear Friends,

For the past several days, we have all been watching the shocking consequences of the recent floods in Pakistan that have impacted the lives of over 14 million people. Entire villages have been wiped out as a result of which two million people are now homeless, 1.7m acres of crops destroyed and livestock drowned. The United Nations estimates that up to 3.5 million children are at high risk from deadly water-borne diseases such as cholera and dysentery because they have no access to clean drinking water.

This disaster is much larger than the Asian Tsunami, the 2005 Earthquake and the Haiti quake combined. Every province in Pakistan has been affected in what is only the beginning of a long term emergency situation. There are 6 million Pakistani children alone in need of urgent help.

Whose suffering will you help stop today?

We request you to help whole-heartedly in any way that you can in order to make a difference in the lives of those affected by the flood and to help them cope with this overwhelming situation.

We are currently accepting donations in the form of food, shelter, clothing and medical relief supplies. A complete list of items needed for the relief effort is attached for your review.

I am collaborating with the Riyadh Chapter of the Pakistani Doctors Group for this Donation Drive. The Military section of the Embassy of Pakistan in Riyadh as well as the Pakistan International Airlines endorses this effort and will be providing logistical assistance in transporting and distributing these donations. You can drop your donations at the Nursery Section of the Pakistan Embassy School (In Nassiriyah) or call me for further options and other details at 0562490486.

Email:- floodsrelief2010@gmail.com

Please donate today. Help us save some lives this Ramadan.

Sincerely,

Uzma Adnan

LIST OF ITEMS NEEDED FOR FLOOD RELIEF EFFORT:

1. Non-Perishable Food:
• Water
• Flour (Aata)
• Rice
• Sugar
• Cooking Oil
• Lentils
• Powdered Milk
• Canned Food (Beans, Peas, Corn, Fruit)
• Tea
• Baby Formula Milk
• Dates

(Please ensure canned food is not nearing expiry date and is good for up to a year)

2. Medical Supplies

• Oral-Rehydration Solutions
• Panadol (Tablets) + Panadol Extra
• Brufen 400 mg (Tablets)
• Flagyl 400 mg (Tablets)
• Anti-Malarial medication (Tablets)
• Anti-Venom medication (for snake bites)
• Medicines for Gastrointestinal diseases
• Anti-pyretic (Fever) medication for children
• Medicines for Respiratory diseases
• Diaper Rash Cream
• Gauze Bandages
• Disposable Gloves
• Anti-Bacterial Wipes
• Water-Purification Tablets
• Band-Aid
• Hand-sanitizing Gel
• Ciprofloxacin 500 mg
• Augmentin 375mg & 625 mg
• Amoxicillin 500 mg
• Azithromycin 500 mg
• Cefuroxime 500 mg
• Losec 40 mg
• Pantaprazole 40 mg
• Gaviscon syrup
• Immodium 2mg
• Buscopan 10 mg
• Cough syrup- Bronchicum
• Benedryl
• Exylin
• vermox 100 mg

(Please ensure that the expiry dates on the medicines you donate are at least 1 year away from present date)

3. Shelter-related items

• Tents and Tarpaulins

• Flashlights

4. Clothing

• Shalwar Kameez for adults and older children

• Shoes for adults

• Any/all other clothes and shoes for children

• Blankets

• Quilts

• Bed sheets

• Towels

(Please make sure that whatever you donate is practical in addition to being new and undamaged/un-stained. Keep in mind that the relief effort targets those in rural areas and that winter is approaching soon. )

5. Other essential items for Hygiene

• Tooth paste

• Tooth brushes

• Soap (for bathing)

• Dettol

• Anti-bacterial hand-soap

• Diapers

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I Love Islam!

2010-08-17T10:59:00.002+03:00

I am a Muslim through and through. I love my religion. It is the religion of peace. It brought humanity out of the dark ages well before anyone knew what freedom was. Women were given rights they could only dream of pre-Islam. Women owned their own businesses; and get this, kept their own money! They were given the right to inherit money from their deceased guardians- un-thought of pre-Islam. They were no longer objectified as per the jahaliya times with women as mere property to men. Islam forbade the act of burying your female babies. Islam banned the consumption of alcohol, which I believe should be a world wide spread ban. Alcohol kills! You don't think so? I have seen it kill!

I must get off now, but I just wanted to say those few words... I love my religion... I love Islam... Allahu Akbar.. And may you all have a blessed Ramadhan which keeps you away from all Evil, and brings you closer to your creator.

Haia to Cyber Police!

2010-08-14T13:45:00.000+03:00

OK, now my question here is.. what would be seen as a cyber crime by the Haia, if it is anything like how rules and regulations are made up on the spot in the streets.. will this inevitably be a way to control things that they should not be controlling online? Will the cyber policing just stick to 'porn' or will more areas such as the blogosphere be policed now?

Let me make it clear, in Saudi society as it is, I believe there is a need for the Haia, but not the way they take their job now. There should be a very strict regulation as to what they should be doing, and should not be allowed to make up their own rules as the day goes, and depending on their mood swings. I also believe they need to take a sensitivity training course, or a course to teach them to properly interact with people. To talk to people in a dignified manner, and to treat them like humans.

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Haia set to put up unit for cyber crimes

By ARAB NEWS

Published: Aug 14, 2010 00:31 Updated: Aug 14, 2010 00:31

RIYADH: The General Presidency of the Commission for the Promotion of Virtue and Prevention of Vice is currently trying to set up a unit for cyber crimes at its headquarters.

The unit will track down any attempt to blackmail women on the Internet, a source from the Haia said on Thursday.

As a temporary arrangement the presidency has set up a committee to investigate cyber crimes at one of its offices in Riyadh. With the collaboration of some other departments, the committee has closed down many sites.

Even after that the committee has monitored some groups running sites that supply porn. Those who ran such sites have been arrested and punished for violating cyber regulations.

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100 Shows this month??!!!

2010-08-13T16:58:00.000+03:00

Ok, I know I have already spoken about it in my earlier post, but I just read an article on Arab news that truly got to me. In a nutshell one of the girls has stated that she loves Ramadan because of the many Soaps on TV; and she further went on to say she will probably be watching about 100 shows this month. What are things coming to? I agree with the elderly folks in this article, Ramadhan is truly losing its meaning in the present day. The full article is bellow.

On another note, last night I went to the mall after Tarawee7 prayers were done. You should have a slight background that my children are usually in bed by 8:30-9pm at the latest. But last night we left the house at 10:15pm, went to the mall to pick up my a dara3a (thowb) I made for my daughter (I will add a picture later), and went to get measured for some house dresses I wanted to have done. WE took my daughter to the play area, and left the mall at 12:15am! YES past midnight. My kids were cranky and tired, as they are usually deep asleep by that time. My son was doing his sleepy son the entire time. And as we were leaving there were people with families just coming to the mall do do some shopping. I felt guilty, and next time shall send my husband out alone to get things done.. or leave him with the kids.

Anyway, I am in the kitchen cooking now, so I better stop typing and go back to my fooood :)

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Elderly Saudis reminisce about fasting traditions of the past

By RIMA AL-MUKHTAR
ARAB NEWS
Published: Aug 12, 2010 23:52 Updated: Aug 12, 2010 23:52

JEDDAH: In the run-up to Ramadan, local TV channels had launched aggressive campaigns advertising new soaps and programs that will specially be aired during the holy month.

As a result, many Saudis and expatriates have been planning their busy daily Ramadan schedules around these soaps and dramas.

“I love the holy month of Ramadan. What I love the most is the huge selection of television shows and series that are on offer during Ramadan ... Since I’m on vacation this Ramadan, it will be easier for me to watch more shows and keep up with them all,” said university student Amnah Al-Sayyed.

“Most people think it’s wrong to spend Ramadan watching television instead of reading the Qur’an, engaging in worship and attending mosques, but I can do both,” said Al-Sayyed.

Lamya Marzook said Ramadan this year is going to be special because television channels will be broadcasting excellent quality programs of a wide-ranging variety.

“I’m only saying this judging from the adverts I’m seeing right now and I can’t wait to see these programs. The series I usually see are Syrian, Egyptian, Kuwaiti and Saudi but there are more this year … they include soaps and series that have action, historical and comedy themes. I’m planning to watch almost 100 shows this month,” she said.

Ramadan is also a particular time for family get-togethers with many older citizens getting nostalgic, reminiscing about the Ramadan of old. “Ramadan used to be a month in which people would try their best to get close to Allah. It used to be month in which families would get together, share their iftar meals and catch up on what others are doing,” said Ahmed Hashim, 72.

“I don’t even see my grandchildren nowadays; most of them are busy shopping or following soaps. They don’t even bother coming to my house in this holy month.”

In fact, Ramadan of yesteryears used to be a time when people would sit in mosques praying, but it is now a time when people shop and watch television.

“Fifty years ago, my family and I used to go to Makkah to spend the entire Ramadan there. It was a perfect opportunity to gain closeness to Allah and strive hard to pray and worship,” said Fatimah Shaker, 82.

“It’s different nowadays; I feel tempted to watch television and follow certain television programs. I’ve managed to keep up with an old tradition in which I invite my entire family over for iftar, but I can’t feel the Ramadan spirit as I used to feel it when I was younger.”

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A Hallmark Holiday?

2010-08-12T00:26:00.000+03:00

Ok, perhaps its not a hallmark holiday, but its coming pretty darn close. On the eve of the first day of Ramadan, I recieved a msg letting me know that;

"During the Holy Season of Ramadan, Blossom Mother and Child, opens 1-4pm, 8:30-2:30 am. Welcome to enjoy up to 70% off our summer collection."

So I have been kindly informed that the shops will remain open until 2:30AM- Yes you read that right 2:30am. I must admit that I won't complain, but will also add that there is a fat chance I will be in any mall that late or early in the morning. The TV commercials for Ramadan been in full swing, where they show us how Vimto, Pepsi, Rabee3 juice, etc are must have Staples of the holy month. If you go to the grocery store you see families with carts (yes cartS) full of food, cases of Vimto, Tons of Flour, Quaker, Jareesh, Harees, and all the goodies needed to be consumed from Maghreb to Fajr. The funny thing is, I have noticed that most people eat MORE during this month then usual, and thats kind of the opposite of the meaning of Ramadan.

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The Ramadan TV series have gotten to an ultimate high, there are about 150 Arabic Ramadhan series showing; from Egyptian, to Syrian, Kuwaiti, to Saudi and all of those other countries I didn't mention. The at times annoying yet oh So funny Tash ma Tash is back on. Many of the tv series are running at the same time Tarawee7 prayers are taking place, so yet again, a new tradition that is taking away from what Ramadan truly is supposed to be. I would like to admit that I am one of those sorry folks that does indulge in about 2 series during teh Ramadan month.

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Anyway, all in all, I feel that Ramadan has lost whats its supposed to be about, but I do hope that people attempt to keep it simple, and try to return to the true meaning of the month. Eat in moderation, pray and remember to worship Allah, and I will add to shop in moderation, as it truly is ridiculous to buy a brand new wardrobe for the occassion...

Good Night to all, and I pray that you are all doing well in this holy month ... <3

MBC 1 Ramadan

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Molokhiya

2010-08-11T12:00:00.000+03:00

I found and slightly adapted this recipe from Group Recipes- Molokhia

Ingredients

4 chicken breast cut into large cubes

2 packs of frozen Molokhia 1000 grams

garlic - 8 cloves

1 pack Maggi Chicken (2 cubes)

2tbs Olive Oil

water - 150 grams

Freshly squeezed lemon juice

Directions

Saute minced garlic in Olive Oil
Add chicken and fry till golden

Add molokhia (If using the frozen Molokhia take out a few hours before use so that it will be defrosted)

Add water if sauce is too thick

Add Maggi cubes and water

Let it stew for 30 minutes

Serve with lemon juice and steamed rice

Enjoy :)

Werg 3nab...

2010-08-11T10:39:00.000+03:00

The best werg 3neb I have ever tasted was made by an American married to a Saudi, so after we connected on facebook years later, it was a recipe I NEEDED to have... I got, and I finally made it 2 days ago... here is the recipe <3

Grape Leaves (1 Jar)

Stuffing Ingredients:

1 jar of grape leaves (I prefer Orlando), drained, washed, and small stem removed

Oil1 onion, chopped

1 tomato, chopped

1 handful of parsley, chopped

2 maggi cubes

1 1/2 teaspoons salt

1/4 teaspoon black pepper

1/2 teaspoon cumin

2 cups of Egyptian rice, washed

1 tea cup lemon juice

1 tea cup olive oil

After rolling:

1 medium potato, sliced

1 medium onion, sliced

1 medium tomato, sliced

Salt

1 tea cup lemon juice

1 tea cup olive oil

Water

Method: Cook the onion until soft. Add the tomato and cook until soft. Add the rest of the ingredients and cook over low heat until the liquid has been absorbed.

Line the bottom of the cooking pot with the potato, tomato and onion slices (you can use only one of the items (potato, tomato or onions) or two or three as you like to protect the grape leaves from sticking and giving the grape leaves better flavor).

Roll the grape leaves and place snuggly next to each other in layers in the pot.

After you have finished rolling, sprinkle some salt, pour the 1 teacup of lemon juice and 1 tea cup of olive oil on top and place a heavy oven-proof dish on top to hold it down. Pour water on this just to cover the plate.

I cooked them in a pressure cooker for 12 minutes and then let them stand inside without opening the pot for 1/2 an hour. If you cook them in a regular pot, you need to bring the water to a boil and then simmer on low for about an hour and leave them in the pot for another hour after the stove has been shut off.

Arrange on a platter and enjoy!

Embarak 3laikum el shahar... and a Sad reminder

2010-08-10T13:40:00.000+03:00

Firstly I would like to wish everyone a Blessed Ramadan, I pray that all your good deeds are counted as we refrain from the bad. May Allah bless you and your family with the best of health and iman during this wonderful month <3

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I read a note today on facebook, and it truly brought tears to my eyes. I felt I would share it here...

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Marriage-To those who are married... Not married..and soon to be married....(An article i came across)

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When I got home that night as my wife served dinner, I held her hand and said, I've got something to tell you... She sat down and ate quietly. Again I observed the hurt in her eyes.

Suddenly I didn't know how to open my mouth. But I had to let her know what I was thinking. I want a divorce... I raised the topic calmly.

She didn't seem to be annoyed by my words, instead she asked me softly, why?

I avoided her question. This made her angry. She threw away the chop sticks and shouted at me, you are not a man! That night, we didn't talk to each other. She was weeping. I knew she wanted to find out what had happened to our marriage. But I could hardly give her a satisfactory answer; she had lost my heart to Dew. I didn't love her anymore. I just pitied her!

With a deep sense of guilt, I drafted a divorce agreement which stated that she could own our house, our car, and 30% stake of my company...

She glanced at it and then tore it into pieces. The woman who had spent ten years of her life with me had become a stranger. I felt sorry for her wasted time, resources and energy but I could not take back what I had said for I loved Dew so dearly. Finally she cried loudly in front of me, which was what I had expected to see. To me her cry was actually a kind of release. The idea of divorce which had obsessed me for several weeks seemed to be firmer and clearer now.

The next day, I came back home very late and found her writing something at the table. I didn't have supper but went straight to sleep and fell asleep very fast because I was tired after an eventful day with Dew.

When I woke up, she was still there at the table writing. I just did not care so I turned over and was asleep again.

In the morning she presented her divorce conditions: she didn't want anything from me, but needed a month's notice before the divorce.

She requested that in that one month we both struggle to live as normal a life as possible. Her reasons were simple: our son had his exams in a month's time and she didn't want to disrupt him with our broken marriage.

This was agreeable to me. But she had something more, she asked me to recall how I had carried her into out bridal room on our wedding day.

She requested that everyday for the month's duration I carry her out of our bedroom to the front door every morning. I thought she was going crazy... Just to make our last days together bearable I accepted her odd request.

I told Dew about my wife's divorce conditions... She laughed loudly and thought it was absurd. No matter what tricks she applies, she has to face the divorce, she said scornfully...

My wife and I hadn't had any body contact since my divorce intention was explicitly expressed. So when I carried her out on the first day, we both appeared clumsy. Our son clapped behind us, daddy is holding mummy in his arms. His words brought me a sense of pain. From the bedroom to the sitting room, then to the door, I walked over ten meters with her in my arms. She closed her eyes and said softly; don't tell our son about the divorce. I nodded, feeling somewhat upset. I put her down outside the door. She went to wait for the bus to work. I drove alone to the office.

On the second day, both of us acted much more easily. She leaned on my chest. I could smell the fragrance of her blouse. I realized that I hadn't looked at this woman carefully for a long time... I realized she was not young any more. There were fine wrinkles on her face, her hair was graying! Our marriage had taken its toll on her. For a minute I wondered what I had done to her.

On the fourth day, when I lifted her up, I felt a sense of intimacy returning. This was the woman who had given ten years of her life to me.

On the fifth and sixth day, I realized that our sense of intimacy was growing again. I didn't tell Dew about this. It became easier to carry her as the month slipped by. Perhaps the everyday workout made me stronger.

She was choosing what to wear one morning. She tried on quite a few dresses but could not find a suitable one. Then she sighed, "all my dresses have grown bigger…” I suddenly realized that she had grown so thin, that was the reason why I could carry her more easily.

Suddenly it hit me... she had buried so much pain and bitterness in her heart. Subconsciously I reached out and touched her head.

Our son came in at the moment and said, Dad, it's time to carry mum out. To him, seeing his father carrying his mother out had become an essential part of his life. My wife gestured to our son to come closer and hugged him tightly. I turned my face away because I was afraid I might change my mind at this last minute. I then held her in my arms, walking from the bedroom, through the sitting room, to the hallway. Her hand surrounded my neck softly and naturally. I held her body tightly; it was just like our wedding day.

But her much lighter weight made me sad. On the last day, when I held her in my arms I could hardly move a step. Our son had gone to school. I held her tightly and said, I hadn't noticed that our life lacked intimacy.

I drove to office.... jumped out of the car swiftly without locking the door. I was afraid any delay would make me change my mind.... I walked upstairs. Dew opened the door and I said to her, Sorry, Dew, I do not want the divorce anymore.

She looked at me, astonished, and then touched my forehead. Do you have a fever? She said. I moved her hand off my head. Sorry, Dew, I said, I won't divorce. My marriage life was boring probably because she and I didn't value the details of our lives, not because we didn't love each other any more. Now I realize that since I carried her into my home on our wedding day I am supposed to hold her until death does apart.

Dew seemed to suddenly wake up. She gave me a loud slap and then slammed the door and burst into tears. I walked downstairs and drove away.

At the floral shop on the way, I ordered a bouquet of flowers for my wife. The sales girl asked me what to write on the card. I smiled and wrote, I'll carry you out every morning until death do us apart.

That evening I arrived home, flowers in my hands, a smile on my face, I ran up stairs, only to find my wife in the bed - dead....... I cried and cried uncontrollably and carried her for the last time from the room to the hall with tears streaming down my face and gazing at my only son, his tears rolling from his eyes, they made me cry even more. I had lost my love, my wife and a loving and caring mother and nothing I could do now to put the clock backward... I had all the time now to look at her motionless body in detail but I knew it was going to be only for a short while until she made her last journey to the Lord..... I held my son and wept again and again thinking of all the things I did not do for her when she was still alive....... & placed gently the flowers in her hands with my tears trickling on them....... she was gone forever, all my tears would not bring her back .

The small details of your lives are what really matter in a relationship. It is not the mansion, the car, property, the money in the bank. These create an environment conducive for happiness but cannot give happiness in themselves. So find time to be your spouse's friend and do those little things for each other that build intimacy. Do have a real happy marriage!

If you don't share this, nothing will happen to you. If you do, you might just save a marriage.

To those who are married… Not married... and soon to be married

THE TIME IS ALWAYS RIGHT TO DO WHAT IS RIGHT

Moral of the story is to value all the things we possess, once they are gone we have nothing but regrets!

Why the Saudi Weekend should be...

2010-08-07T22:12:00.001+03:00

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Don't you think the weekend would be better if we had it on Friday and Saturday, instead of the Thursday Friday combo one we have now? There are many plus points to having the former as our official weekend.

We can visit the whole Market issue, as it is important. The fact that we are the only market open on Saturday where the rest of the Gulf have their weekends on Friday/Saturday is beyond me. We are losing an entire day of Thursday in the market, whilst the rest of the GCC are working to make their money matter :) we are at home sleeping!

Another reason is that people would really love Friday much more if the weekend was Friday/Saturday. How many people dread Friday? Friday nights? Friday is our holy day, and for people to hate it because it signifies the end of their weekend should be changed. Lets have Friday as the much loved FIRST day of the weekend, and Saturday to be the dreaded day :)

Anyway, that was my two cents.. and good night to all :)

Saudi Youth

2010-08-07T17:06:00.000+03:00

I find that Saudi youth are sometimes put somewhere between a rock and a hard place. They are expected to follow certain rules that they do not even understand. They are inundated by rules, laws and regulations that truly take away from being young. I have always found that the kids here are either the most immature or the most mature people i have ever met. As someone who has grown up in countries with much more freedom then Saudi Arabia, I must say that I truly am saddened by the lack of places youth here have to actually go to.

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Yesterday I went to Kingdom Mall for some retail therapy. My husband dropped me off at the basement parking entrance. When I went in, I saw these 3 boys desperately trying to enter the mall by attempting to persuade the security guard that they had female family inside waiting for them. When one of the boys saw me and my kids at the elevator he came up to me and said ' I am with you right? Can you please let me enter with you'. I was kind of at a loss for words, I was having a struggle within me, a part of me felt sorry for these boys and wanted to let them in with me, another part of me knew that they would probably enter and harass the girls inside (sadly.. when they don't know better.. that's all they think of). I politely declined, but still felt bad. I must admit that I have on many occasions done this for some poor guys, but at this time I really wasn't comfortable with it. Anyway, one of the head security guys comes to me, and asks me if I knew that boy. I told him that I didn't. He then starts cursing the boys, saying that they were disrespectful, and how dare they talk to a respectable women with her kids. He then grabbed his walky talky and started shouting some numbers into it. All the time, I was trying to tell the guy that these boys were young, and as I have brothers of my own, I had no issue with them, and rather felt sorry that they have no place to. I was ignored, and I believe he was trying to get the Hai'a in, but the boys were smart and left as fast as their feet could take them to their cars.

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Now my issue here is that boys here really have nothing to do. They can't go to a mall and shop without being given the 3rd degree. Many parks are deemed family only, as are many of the theme parks scattered throughout the country. There are obviously no movie theatres for anyone to enjoy. So what do they do? they flood the streets and drive around all day. They have made their pass times driving around in the most dangerous of manners. The moment they actually come into contact with a person of the opposite sex, they really don't know how to handle themselves. They learn from their peers the art of being truly annoying, and have a complete lack of respect for women. The funny thing is, I don't blame these boys, I blame the society that hasn't taught them better. One may argue that these things should be taught at home, but lets face it here, no matter what you teach your child, they will always most probably act a different way when away from you. SO if our society taught them how to properly act around other people, rather then just telling them that everything is wrong, the society would have been better off.

I know this is kind of not where my blog post was supposed to head, but I can't help it. I have been hearing about many Saudi Atheists as of late. And I just wanted to say that once again I blame the society that has not taught them better. From the day we are born we are taught what to do, what to think, and who we should be, no questions really asked. We are told to blindly follow the culture (not religion), and many have come to think of them as the same. In Saudi culture has become religion, and many cultural actions have demoralised individual Saudi's and has forced them to completely give up on faith (May Allah guide them). Wouldn't it have been better if we were taught the difference of what is Culture and what is religion? Many of the posts I have read from Atheists go along these lines; some girls have argues that Islam (actually its Saudi culture) does not give women rights, they believe that as women we are deemed no body and for that reason have chosen to give up on Islam all together. I truly believe that if these people were REALLY taught Islam, and saw Islamic actions being practised they would have known better; but alas even our religious police- whom are supposed to be the pillars of what is Islam in society have adapted to culture more then religion.

Anyway, that has been on my mind for a couple of days and I thought i would just go through it here.

No Approval.. No Fatwa!

2010-08-03T10:03:00.000+03:00

It's about time this has been made clear, after many nonsense fatwas [think breasfeeding your driver] that have been coming out; it is truly welcome news that there will be some sort of regulation on what is accepted as a 'real' fatwa. Let's hope that people actually follow this and won't continue to issue fatwas left right and center because they think they can.

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No fatwa without approval

By MOHD HUMAIDAN
ARAB NEWS
Published: Aug 2, 2010 23:44 Updated: Aug 2, 2010 23:44

JEDDAH: Islamic scholars intending to publish religious edicts (fatwas) on contemporary issues have been told to contact experts at the Ministry of Islamic Affairs or Dar Al-Ifta (the Saudi fatwa authority) before approaching the media.

Islamic Affairs Minister Saleh Al-Asheikh, who gave the instruction, pointed out that many of fatwas issued by individuals recently lack balance. "They should not publish fatwas except after consulting with other experts," he told the scholars.

The minister also advised members of the public to receive religious edicts from authentic sources, which is the Presidency for Scholastic Research and Religious Edicts (Dar Al-Ifta) headed by Grand Mufti Sheikh Abdul Aziz Al-Asheikh.

He said he had noticed that some scholars were issuing fatwas on silly issues. "This will give a bad impression about the Kingdom being an Islamic state. We have so many other important issues to deal with. We have to confront terrorism and the move to link Islam and its Prophet (peace be upon him) with terrorism," he said.

Asked about a recent fatwa that permits music, the minister said: "It's a personal matter and it will be better for a person to take the other opinion."

Al-Asheikh underscored Saudi Arabia's success in combating terrorism and its efforts to change the mindset of militants through counseling. Foreign leaders and officials have appreciated these efforts.

Asked about regulating the collection of donations during Ramadan, Al-Asheikh said: "We have given instructions to all mosques not to receive donations in cash." The ministry has urged authorities of mosques that are built not facing the Qibla to make required changes as quickly as possible.

Blackberry key services to be blocked in UAE & KSA....

2010-08-02T14:03:00.000+03:00

The Tweets have been circulating all yesterday, my facebook has been inundated by Blackberry talk. Whats the deal? Well, the UAE, and Saudi Arabia, have once again decided to block key blackberry services. I am really not too concerned as my Blackberry/Iphone resulted in the Iphone winning :)

Many people are angered by the decision while others are welcoming it for several reasons. As one of my facebook friends have so candidly stated; " I'm sorry guys, and don't get angry, but I'm so sick and tired of the Blackberry! You can't see a person walking around without one and his/her eyes glued to it 24/7! What a waste of time! " .

I have personally been in with a Doctor who was BBming while I was in there with them, and have sat with many people that have had their hands and eyes GLUED to their BBM. I will admit, I Oh so desperately wanted to join the Blackberry craze, but at the time didn't find a phone that was visually appealing, I mean come on, the Iphone does look Oh So SHexyyy :)

What do you think about this decision? Do you thinks its an infringement of privacy? Are these governments trying to desperately keep tabs on everything we do? Are there other reasons for this decision? Could it be due to safety? A means to easy 'Dating', and cyber mingling of the sexes?To curb terrorism in the region? Could it be an Apple conspiracy to have more Iphone 4s sold in the region (j/k) or as someone tweeted last night, is this going to be the road to start the iChat instead of the BBM? :)

Here is one of the many articles world wide that have jumped on this News worthy decision...

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UAE And Saudi Arabia To Block BlackBerry Services
02 August, 2010, by ITProPortal Staff

BlackBerry users have been barred from accessing a number of services in the United Arab Emirates (UAE) and Saudi Arabia, The Telegraph has reported.

The ban, commencing 11 October, will prevent users from e-mail, internet browsing and instant messaging services on the smartphone, manufactured by Research In Motion (RIM), citing national security concerns.

The Telecommunications Regulatory Authority of the UAE has stated: "Today's decision is based on the fact that, in their current form, certain BlackBerry services allow users to act without any legal accountability, causing judicial, social and national security concerns for the UAE."

Activists across the region have blamed regulating authorities of forcing censorship on using phones, following the censoring of a number of websites.

Read more: http://www.itproportal.com/portal/news/article/2010/8/2/uae-and-saudi-arabia-block-blackberry-services/#ixzz0vRcEia8E

More News sources:

UAE, Saudi Arabia to block Blackberry services on CBS news
UAE, Saudi Arabia to block Blackberry on MSNBC
UAE: Blackberry blocked in UAE
WRAPUP 3-BlackBerry users in UAE, Saudi may have services cut- CNN
Two Gulf states to ban some Blackberry functions- BBC

and the list does go on.... Its has truly made it as really BIG news!

Even my city Toronto has made it big news...

UAE says BlackBerry a security riskSaudi Arabia to join Emirates in blocking RIM’s data network because of potential terrorist use

A Girls Guide to Saudi Arabia

2010-08-02T12:43:00.000+03:00

For the article on Vanity Fair see bellow link:

A GIrls Guide to Saudi Arabia

No Women. No Play.

2010-07-31T20:31:00.000+03:00

As you may have heard there is a campaign to 'force' Saudi Women to take part in the Olympics. The idea is that if Saudi women can not be part of the Saudi team, then the entire country should not take place. Male Saudi athletes will have to sit at home as a punishment for what is not in their hands. I think the idea is ridiculous. And the issue of Saudi women and Olympics in my eyes is like trying to put out a forest fire with a spoon of water. I mean really! There are truly more important things to focus on.

Anyway, if you have not heard about it.. the link is as follows:

No Women. No Play.

On Maids and OUR children...

2010-07-31T00:25:00.000+03:00

This is a very big topic here in Saudi. Maids have pretty much become the de facto 'mother' of many of our children. I must say that this is not just a problem here in Saudi, but throughout the gulf, and probably amongst the upper class rich throughout the world. The difference here is that one does no have to be filthy rich to have a maid at home, and thus have a maid pretty much run the house; cleaning, cooking, caring for the children.

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Nowadays as living expenses have gone up, it is normal and truly a necessity for mothers to go out into the work force. Many women no longer have the luxury to leave their children with family members, as the mothers may be older, busy, or not in the same city. This pretty much leaves the maids or daycare facilities. Most people opt for their maids, as the day care facilities can run anywhere above 15,000 SAR which can be a bank breaker for some couples who are already tight with funds.

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The problem is, these maids are not merely nannies. Many are expected to wake up at the crack of dawn and start cleaning. Once the kids are up, they become nannies, and must juggle cleaning and caring for the kids. Once breakfast/lunch time or dinner time come around, they must juggle 3 jobs at once, the maid, the nanny and the cook. And on many occasions these maids are not treated properly by their employers, and hate every waking moment of their day.

Picture Source: http://desertdiaries.files.wordpress.com/2009/03/maids-benefits.jpg

With such feelings already festering within, what does one expect from an unhappy overworked house helper? Hate of course. And some just can't distinguish between the innocent child and their parents. All they can see is that they can hurt the parent by hurting the child. And this is where the serious problems arises.

Now the question is, how can we better treat our maids, to ensure that they are properly caring for our children. I would have to say that firstly; you must lessen the workload on them. If you want them to be your nannies, then give them limited chores during the day (when you or someone else can actually be with the kids). Let them sleep properly, and if you have a household that stays up late, let them take naps during the day so that they will be well rested to stay awake with the family. Or better yet, let them sleep early, and the parents can stay with the children and actually have some bonding time. Cook for your family whenever your available. Make it fun bring hubby into the kitchen and have a date at home :) I think you may get the gist of what I am saying.

In a nutshell, treat your maid like a human being, remember that she needs her rest, and DOES get tired from being a superwoman all day. Teach your children to respect them, and talk to them courteously (you would be surprised how many children I have seen talking to their maids in manners which had me wanting to REALLY spank that kid!) Surprise them with gifts once in a while to show them they are indeed appreciated. And once contract renewal comes around, why not give them a raise if you feel their work and time with your family was truly good.

Personal Note: I don't have to work il7amdlilah and I stay at home; I truly feel that watching my children grow up in front of my eyes is truly be the worlds greatest treasure. I am not saying I will never leave them in someone elses care; that will eventually happen, though the thought of it still scares me. But when the time comes, I do pray that I finally get a proper maid [my last experience was out of this world, and has had me truly scared of even applying for a new maid], and that we will welcome her into our home with utmost respect.

Anyway, enough of my rambling on and on... I need to get to sleep now...

Ciao :)

PS- I know there are maids that are just EVIL even when you are great to them, I have experienced them first hand. SO I understand that it is NOT always the fault of the employer :s

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Leaving kids in maids’ care: Better safe than sorry

By LAURA BASHRAHEEL
ARAB NEWS

Published: Jul 28, 2010 23:52 Updated: Jul 28, 2010 23:52

JEDDAH: With many people in the Kingdom living fast-paced, modern lives and women holding down jobs, families are often obliged to leave their children with relatives and even maids. However, the question remains whether maids can be trusted?

According to local newspapers, a three-month-old child, called Mishary, died two months ago after being poisoned by an Indonesian maid. The woman had mixed rat poison and crushed Paracetamol tablets into the child’s milk.

The three-year-old developed a severe rash, and remained in a coma after suffering heart and kidney failure. Police are still investigating the incident that took place in May. It is unknown whether the maid committed the act in revenge and whether she had been abused.

According to a study released recently by Imam Muhammad bin Saud Islamic University in Riyadh, 40 percent of Saudi working mothers leave their children in the care of their maids, 42 percent leave them with their parents and 18 percent leave them in nurseries or day care centers.

Hana Al-Saeed, a 29-year-old working mother of two, said she has no option but to leave her two children with either her maid or her mother. “I work from eight to three and my husband also works so I have to leave my kids with someone,” she said.

Al-Saeed has thought about quitting her job but said she needs the money to secure her children’s future. “With inflation and fees for private school so high I need this job,” she said.

Fatima Turki, a 32-year-old mother of three, said she read about Mishary in newspapers and feels it is wrong to completely trust maids. “Once my maid was looking after my son who was then three years old. While she was looking after him, he burned his knee with an iron. I can never forget the day when I came home and saw his leg,” she said.

Turki said the maid was ironing some clothes and left the iron next to her son while she took a phone call. “My son held the iron and it fell on his knee. He still has a scar. It was a case of negligence but then he is not her son so why would she worry so much about his well being,” she said.

As a result, Turki left her job and says she prefers spending time with her kids.

Leaving children with maids could be the only solution for working parents. Sadly, some mothers leave their kids with maids even when they are home.

Dareen, a 30-year-old mother of two, said her friend’s three-year-old son doesn’t know how to speak proper Arabic because he spends his entire day with the maid. “He can pronounce Indonesian words better than Arabic. I told my friend it’s unfair on the child, especially since he is about to go to school but she doesn’t listen,” she said.

Dareen said her friend is more worried about looking beautiful and hanging out with friends rather than spending time with her child.

A nursery owner in Jeddah who requested anonymity said some parents leave their children from eight in the morning and don’t pick them up until eight in the evening.

“I opened this nursery to help working mothers and look after their kids while they are away. One divorced woman used to leave her son with us for more than 12 hours. I told her it’s unfair on the child,” she said.

The owner said it is also improper to leave children with maids. “I always say to mothers don’t trust anyone with your kids because they’re not responsible for them. I also tell them not to mistreat maids because they will eventually take revenge by hurting the kids,” she said.

A No Brainer!!!!

2010-07-28T11:09:00.000+03:00

I can't believe this even came under discussion! Its like issuing a fatwa now saying that Drinking is 7aram!!? I mean come on! But I am glad that the verdict is officially out (again) for these perverted men to realise that NO they can not legalize any sort of prostitution for their own pleasure! GROW THE HELL UP!!!!!

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... NOT

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Scholars condemn fixed-term matrimony

By ARAB NEWS

Published: Jul 25, 2010 22:51 Updated: Jul 25, 2010 22:51

JEDDAH: Saudi lawyers and Shariah experts have classed “tourist marriages” — the practice of some Saudi men to travel abroad and marry women for specific periods of time — as illegal.

The tourist marriage has been added to the long list of different types of marriages that Saudi men often undertake, at times to overcome the Ministry of Interior’s strict restrictions on marrying foreign women.

A typical tourist marriage usually lasts for fixed periods of time (sometimes ranging a few days) and is aimed at gaining sensual pleasures and not procreating. Marriage officials often carry out these marriages with two witnesses. The officials are, however, often unaware of the fixed time periods that the couples fix between them, a clause that would, according to the four schools of Islamic jurisprudence, render the marriage illegal.

Abu Fadi, a 45-year-old Saudi, used to repeatedly travel to a Southeast Asian country to recruit housemaids. It was during one of these travels that he married a woman for a short term “to avoid committing adultery.” [WHATEVER!!!!!]

“We had memorable moments together, especially since I thought my marriage was legal Shariah-wise. I, however, regretted the decision because my ex-wife sent an e-mail with photographs from the marriage to my Saudi wife,” he said. “It was a terrible experience. My wife, however, forgave me after I expressed sorrow and regret on condition I would allow her to accompany me abroad, regardless of whether it is for business, education or leisure,” he added.

After returning from a trip abroad, Abdullah has been left with a sexually transmitted disease. “I contracted herpes from a hotel receptionist while abroad; we were in a tourist marriage. My friends noticed that I liked her and it was they who suggested I marry her," he said, adding that he stayed with the woman for a month before returning to the Kingdom.

Lawyer Rayan Mufti described tourist marriages as “legalized prostitution.”[ ILLEGAL!] “These marriages are popular among men who want to commit adultery with licenses. All of the four major schools of Islamic jurisprudence, the Hanafi, the Maliki, the Hanbali and the Shafie, agree that marriages such as these are illegal,” he said.

“This is downright fornication because these marriages are designed solely for sexual pleasures without the responsibilities of a marriage proper,” he added.

Mufti said such marriages are particularly harmful to women who are treated like commodities. “They are also harmful to any children who may be born because they more than often end up without fathers … Women should be wary and not think these marriages are right. Children born from such matrimonies are also illegitimate,” he added.

Islamic researcher Abdullah Al-Jifin said marriages that have fixed time periods are not considered sound and legal in the eyes of Shariah. “The so-called tourist marriages which are meant to end after certain periods of time are totally Haram,” he said.

“Men who travel abroad during the weekend, get married on a Wednesday evening and divorce on a Friday before boarding the plane back home are committing sins. How can a good marriage only last for 72 hours?” he said, adding, “This is not a marriage.”

Dr. Sameer Zamou, a consultant in dermatology and venereal diseases, warned that such marriages can lead to those involved contracting sexually-transmitted diseases, such as herpes and AIDS.

Saleh Al-Daboul, associate professor of criminal sociology at King Fahd Security College in Riyadh, said many social problems stem from such marriages. “Husbands often leave their wives and children behind without caring for them,” he said, adding that there are many children from such marriages abroad whose fathers are not even willing to recognize them as their own.

Ali Al-Hamdan, the Saudi ambassador to Yemen, also described tourist marriages as “legalized fornication” and blamed the strange fatwas issued by some scholars for the phenomenon. “Many young Yemeni girls fall into these kinds of unlawful relationships due to extreme poverty. They then come to the embassy seeking help to find their Saudi husbands,” he added.

Abdul Rahman Khayyat, the Saudi ambassador to Indonesia, said the embassy cannot deal with women who do not have proper documents proving they were married to Saudi men.

He, however, pointed out that the embassy is helping children who have been abandoned by their Saudi fathers.

Ali Al-Hanaki, an adviser with Awasir, an organization that cares for the families abandoned by Saudis abroad, said there are at least 596 Saudi families with 1,602 members stranded abroad for various reasons.

He said these families are stranded because the father has died, fallen sick or absconded. He added that Awasir is working hard to help these families.

Source: Scholars condemn fixed-term marriage

On The Face Veil Ban...

2010-07-26T11:56:00.001+03:00

I have been wanting to write a post on the 'burqa ban' that has been sweeping many countries. It was implemented in Turkey, Belgium enforcing a nationwide 'burqa ban', France is just about to fully pass a ban on the face veil, Syria has implemented a ban on the face veil in Schools and Universities, Egypt has been wanting to impose a ban for a while as well, there are many other countries that have enforced or want to enforce some type of 'burqa ban'. There are people of all walks of life calling for a ban on the face veil around the globe.

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So whats my say on this issue? I say I am against the ban. I am against the fact that other people want to chose how a person wants to live. If a women has chosen to wear the veil on her own, then she should be given the right to do so. I don't see the difference between someone being forced to cover, or forced to un cover. People tend to equate the covering with oppression. But I also add forcing someone to uncover into the equation. I have read many different blogs on the topic, and thats the beauty, people have the right to disagree. I must agree with some other bloggers that this ban is nothing about giving women freedom, and is more a political step to get more people to follow the 'right', conservative, republican etc wing!

Hijab By Country

My 2 cents On the Saudi Marriage Process...

2010-07-25T23:08:00.000+03:00

Many people are probably aware that in order for a Saudi National to get married to a Non-Saudi national they need a permission paper stating that they are allowed to get married to their prospective spouse. The process can be short and sweet (with proper Vitamin W -Wasta- Connections), or can be a never ending dilemma where the marriage occurs abroad and where kids are in the picture well before the permission is granted- IF its even granted.

There are many reasons for this process such as; to force Saudis to marry Saudis to avoid 'spinsterhood' , this is amongst the biggest reasons people object to such marriages. Another reason is that many in Saudi believe that marrying a foreigner is not as noble as marrying a local from a notable tribe (think business merger). For that reason it may be hard for someone to marry a foreigner without getting some family member firmly against it. In Saudi, it is not only your nuclear family you worry about, it is your extended family and at times your entire tribe. Some other reasons could be that many believe that bringing in 'foreign' or 'western' influence to Saudi will have negative influence on society, and in essence take away from true Saudi culture; the same people that will easily travel to the 'West' yearly or several times a year once vacation time comes around.

While chatting with my sister yesterday, something new dawned upon me. Maybe, just maybe the marriage permission process is also a way to safeguard foreign woman from some Saudi men. I mean really, some Gulf men are known to play around with a poor girl abroad and come home and marry someone that was already chosen for them. I know there are probably people sitting there disagreeing with me, but let me just make what I am saying clear.

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There are many men around that want to marry a foreign girl, I am not just saying Saudi, as the example I can think of has to do with a Non-Saudi Gulf national. No names to be mentioned though. A Gulf national has met a foreign girl, and wants to marry her. He has no job, and lives off his family. He is already divorced, and the girls friends are pretty sure that he just wants to play around with her, and then just divorce her when the time comes. This is where the Saudi marriage permission would have helped her. A Man needs to be 100% sure he truly wants to marry the woman he has chosen, I mean truly, want her as his wife. He needs to go through a tough process to have her allowed to even enter the country as his wife. He may have to set aside many days/weeks/months completely focusing on obtaining this marriage permission; something he would only do for someone he truly cares about and has no foreseeable intention to divorce after having his 'fun' with her. He will be showing his family and country ahead of time that this woman he has chosen is noble in his eyes, and surely lives up to his idea of what he wants as a wife, and as the mother of his children. He has to stand before his family and firmly state his intention to marry this foreign woman, and bring her into his family. So under the Saudi permission process, I have finally found something i find positive; it has given the foreign woman a piece of mind that her husband really loves her enough to go through this process, and will hopefully stay devoted to her for many years and hopefully a lifetime to come.

Anyhoo, that was my 2 brand spanking new cents on the topic, and would love to wish you all a good night from Rio-KSA :)

PS- While searching for a picture to add to this blog post, I came across this interesting article, and thought I would share it; Why Emirati men marry Foreign women

Thirty...

2010-07-22T01:52:00.000+03:00

"Nature gives you the face you have when you are twenty. Life gives you the face you have at thirty."

Coco Chanel

And a Good Night from Rio-KSA ♥

I would like to have a sit down with him!

2010-07-08T18:02:00.000+03:00

JWT for Huggies: I've Got Chic in My Pants

2010-07-07T16:37:00.000+03:00

Modestly dressed Mannequins...

2010-07-06T21:59:00.001+03:00

Qati Nafsak Ya Mannequin! :)

While at the mall yesterday I saw something that made me go, OMG, are you for real?!?! While in the Gap, I was browsing around and I noticed 2 of the Philipino sales men talking n Philipino, I am still not really sure how I understood, but he said something about a shawl and the Mutawa, and I put the two together and figured out they were talking about covering the mannequins with a shawl so the Mutawa's would not get at them. I really could not believe t, I mean how aroused can one get by a headless mannequin to need to have her covered up with a shawl? The mannequin already had a cute sundress on, and the salesmen told me that they were not allowed to keep it like that and that they had to cover them with either a jacket or a shawl so that they would not get in trouble by the religious police. I mean come on, is the job so boring that one must now dictate what a headless mannequin wears? I really think they should put there time to better use!

I really have nothing else to add, it was shocking to me, and I wish I took a pic of the headless mannequins up on display.. next time!

I have added a picture I found online of headless mannequins in Sharjah

Picture Source: http://gulfnews.com/polopoly_fs/18-ae-mannequin-gn-5-jpg-1.81955!image/1998259647._gen/derivatives/box_475/1998259647.

I am off to bake cupcakes for my baby girls last day at summer camp... ciao :)

Shopping

2010-07-06T10:12:00.000+03:00

I spent a little over 8 hours at the mall yesterday, shopping most of it, and had some coffee during the Dhuhr prayer time, kept at it, got lunch for my daughter right before the Asr prayer time, and shopped some more, finally got myself something to eat, and took my daughter and my friends daughter to play for about an hour in the indoor kids area. My son was being a good little boy, May Allah bless him. Maghreb was about to come in and I was done. I needed to go home :) As you may already have heard all malls in the kingdom will be open all day throughout the summer save prayer times of course. Too bad I have to go back to return and exchange some things :(

If you are taking a cab and would really like to be as safe as possible, I would suggest you take the London Cab service (they look just like the cabs in London), you will find booths for them in most malls. I saw the booth while I was waiting for my husband to come pick me up.

Oooh and I clocked in at over 16000 steps on my pedometer.. 5 weeks and 6 kg down... I am proud :)))

You would think that they would use spell check right?!

And I found an interesting store.. A world cup 2010 store.. hmmm... I wonder whats going to happen to it after the games are over?

Testing

2010-07-04T00:05:00.001+03:00

Testing

What ever happened to peaceful protest? I am truly ashamed!

2010-06-27T08:59:00.000+03:00

Jewish girl tries to criticise Dr. Norman Finkelstein

2010-06-25T15:02:00.000+03:00

Saudi Arabia IS a democracy.. in its loosest terms

2010-06-14T17:05:00.000+03:00

I am pretty sure I have some people shaking there head, wondering what this crazy lady is rambling about. But as I sat here in deep thought wondering why things are not moving forward as fast as I would like, it hit me; Saudi in a small way IS a democracy (Ok.. maybe not the being elected part ). Lets take a look at a some examples. As a woman, I will obviously mention the driving issue, and why n the year 2010 woman are still deemed unable to get behind the wheel in their own country; it is not because of the leaders, as King Abdullah is all for women driving, but rather the the people he rules that have chosen not to be enlightened enough to allow women to drive on the roads of this country. The strict segregation between people is also something that is not put in place by the Ruler, but once again is something the people he rules have chosen. A Dictator would have long ago said 'sod them', I will do as I please, but in all realities what the people want in this country is of utmost importance. While people sit around blaming the Ruling family, I say we need to educate the common ~~idiots~~ people around us, the regular folks int he streets, the ones that are forcing this country to progress at an extremely slow rate, as many of them want us to go backwards instead of forward

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That was just my two cents on the topic...

Anger...

2010-06-13T11:10:00.000+03:00

Picture Source: http://wildelycreative.wordpress.com/2009/09/03/geoengineering-a-little-rant/anger/

He who angers you conquers you.

- Elizabeth Kenny

World Cup 2010 :)

2010-06-11T19:21:00.001+03:00

Disappointment...

2010-06-11T18:04:00.000+03:00

Picture Source: http://wisdomworking.files.wordpress.com/2009/06/disappointment.jpg

Disappointment to a noble soul is what cold water is to burning metal; it strengthens, tempers, intensifies, but never destroys it.

Eliza Tabor

Pondering

2010-06-10T23:40:00.000+03:00

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“Listen a hundred times; ponder a thousand times; speak once.”

Turkish Proverb

Double Lives.... Saudi Style...

2010-06-06T16:46:00.002+03:00

On Thursday morning, I got my children all dressed up, and my husband and I decided to go to the mall to do a bit of retail therapy. We chose Faisalya Mall, as there are some shops there that I needed. After walking around a bit we ended up at the Harvey Nichols Cafeteria. We were seated, and I was kinda happy to be somewhere where smoking wasn't permitted. (the mall is a no-smoking mall). Anyway when we were seated, I started to smell that all too familiar cigarette smoke. I got annoyed and asked the waiter why someone would be smoking here. He told me he really couldn't stop people. I replied that it was in fact his job, and that I would love to be the one to stop people to stop smoking if needed. Anyway, my husband gave me his look; the look that says just ignore it, and let us eat without incident. I shut my mouth. Then I started hearing some music being played, I didn't mind, it was kinda nice to have it. I looked towards the source of the music, and I see these three ladies (They were in their late 20's) playing music, and smoking, and just acting like children (You will find that many lades here don't act their age- some often remind me of my annoying teenage years). I stared at them, and loudly told the waiter that he need do his job and ensure that people do not smoke in the restaurant, as I have 2 babies here with me, and as non-smokers we had the rights to be somewhere without that poison. They didn't even bat an eye, and I was 300% sure they heard me. I asked the waiter to move us to another table, and once there, it was out of site out of mind. Anyway let me give you a quick description of these ladies, they were sitting there not covering their hair (I don't judge that, as I myself usually remove my head covering as well), they were all made up... actually let me skip this part, as it really isn't too important. One at a time the ladies got up (5 minutes after one another), and sashayed there way to the washroom (the whole hip swinging left to right, MAJORLY fake walk). They were in there for a while, and my husband starts laughng and asks me if there is an exit through the washroom, and replied.. Nope. Anyway he paid the bill, and ran to the lower floor to pick up some perfumes he wanted. I took my time and let my daughter finished. And all of a sudden 3 girls come out of the washroom, only this time they were fully covered. Two of them had their eyes showing, where the other had her entire face showing. If I saw them outside I would have never guessed they were teh same girls that were all done up, with their hair all done, smoking and listening to music. They looked like typical Saudi girls clad in their 3bayas. And at the point it hit me, these girls have to have 2 personalities. One for their families, and one which is more attune to who they really are. I am so happy my parents allowed me to be me, and always encouraged me to be me. It must be terribly hard and at times all too time consuming switching between personalities. But I guess in this society its all too normal, as this is what they have been seeing all their lives.

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Catch ‘em Being Good

2010-06-02T22:02:00.000+03:00

As Parents we tend to focus on our kids bad actions, and tend to forget to give any focus whatsoever when they actually do something good. I found a great piece on a blog I was reading, and thought I would share it with my fellow facebookians ;) Here is a list of words we can use with our kids when they are doing good.... Catch ‘em Being Good....

* Fabulous
* Excellent
* Outstanding
* I appreciate that
* I like that
* Super
* What an imagination!
* Well done
* Phenomenal
* I knew you could do it!
* Fantastic
* Nice work
* Spectacular
* Sensational
* Hurray for you!
* You brighten my day
* Wow
* What a good listener
* You’re so helpful
* Marvelous

You can add any positive words to this list in any language you speak at home. Let's show our little ones that they don't only get attention when they do bad things...

Source - http://www.2wired2tired.com/
Picture- www.filedby.com/.../carla_hamaguchi/45431/works/

What changes after having a baby....

2010-06-02T18:21:00.000+03:00

Haven't posted anything on this blog in a while... so thought I would share this list I found.. find sooo many of the points are sooo true!

What changes when you have a baby? A better question may be: What doesn't change? Here, writer and mom Rebecca Woolf lists her most notable post-baby observations. Then scroll down to read our favorite comments from readers about how their babies changed their lives.

1. You finally stop to smell the roses, because your baby is in your arms.

2. Where you once believed you were fearless, you now find yourself afraid. [See a reader's perspective in #22, below.]

3. The sacrifices you thought you made to have a child no longer seem like sacrifices.

4. You respect your body ... finally.

5. You respect your parents and love them in a new way.

6. You find that your baby's pain feels much worse than your own.

7. You believe once again in the things you believed in as a child.

8. You lose touch with the people in your life whom you should have banished years ago.

9. Your heart breaks much more easily.

10. You think of someone else 234,836,178,976 times a day.

11. Every day is a surprise.

12. Bodily functions are no longer repulsive. In fact, they please you. (Hooray for poop!)

13. You look at your baby in the mirror instead of yourself.

14. You become a morning person.

15. Your love becomes limitless, a superhuman power.

And from our readers...
1. "You discover how much there is to say about one tooth." — Ashley's mom

2. "You finally realize that true joy doesn't come from material wealth." — Anonymous

3. "You now know where the sun comes from." — Charlotte

4. "You'd rather buy a plastic tricycle than those shoes that you've been dying to have." — Sophie's mom

5. "You realize that although sticky, lollipops have magical powers." — Roxanne

6. "You don't mind going to bed at 9 p.m. on Friday night." — Kellye

7. "Silence? What's that?" — Anonymous

8. "You realize that the 15 pounds you can't seem to get rid of are totally worth having." — Brenda

9. "You discover an inner strength you never thought you had." — Ronin and Brookie's mom

10. "You no longer rely on a clock — your baby now sets your schedule." — Thomas' mom

11. "You give parents with a screaming child an 'I-know-the-feeling' look instead of a 'Can't-they-shut-him-up?' one." — Jaidyn's mom

12. "Your dog — who used to be your 'baby' — becomes just a dog." — Kara
[Many readers begged to differ, saying things like, " I disagree with number 12. My dogs are my additional children," "Nothing about previous babies, whether two- or four-legged, changes when a new miracle comes along," "My dog will never be 'just a dog," and "This is sad to me. My dog is still my baby too."]

13. "You take the time for one more hug and kiss even if it means you'll be late." — Tracey

14. "You learn that taking a shower is a luxury." — Jayden's mom

15. "You realize that you can love a complete stranger." — Dezarae's mom

16. You find yourself wanting to make this world a better place. — Arizona

17. If you didn’t believe in love at first sight before, now you do! — Ciara

18. You start to appreciate Sesame Street for its intellectual contribution. — Anon.

19. You have to quit watching the news because you see every story from a mother's perspective and it breaks your heart. — Brooke&Boys

20. You just plain love life more - everything comes together and becomes better because of one tiny person and your love for them. — Anon.

21. You finally find out the real reason you have those breasts. — Anon.

22. In response to #2 [above], I'd say that where you were once afraid, you're now fearless. I was always very timid and shy and let myself get walked all over … but now where my kid's concerned, I'll speak my mind and really connect with my inner "b"! — gummismom

23. The support you get from other people surprises you, because the people giving it are not always the ones you'd expect. — japanese_macaque

24. Nothing is just yours any longer. You share EVERYTHING! — DylanLsMom

25. No matter what you've accomplished in life, you look at your child and think, "I've done a GREAT job!" — Anon.

26. You want to take better care of yourself for your child. — Treasor

27. You can have the most wonderful conversation using only vowel sounds like "ahhh" and "oooo." — littlehulk2008

Its been 7 days...

2010-06-02T12:24:00.000+03:00

Ok, so its been 7 days (ok today is day 8) since I have come to the full realization that my weight will not melt off without any work. My metabolism has slowed down significantly, firstly due to having my second baby, and secondly due to having a thyroid problem (which I have not begun medicating for). I was in Duba a few weeks ago, and when I returned started my usual facebook picture uploads, only this time I did not dare add any pictures of me that showed anything from the waist down. So on Wednesday May 26th 2010, started walking away the pounds with Leslie Sansone. This is not the first time I used her to lose weight. In 2003 I used her and lost 15 kg in less then 6 months, think it was more or less 4 months, but I was doing 6 miles a day, and had a more active life in Toronto. Anyhoo, am currently doing 3 miles a day, cut down on what I eat. I am not going to go on a diet, I smply want to teach myself to portion control. Let me make it clear though, I have never been those women who sit down to HUGE plates of food, but as I am getting older nature is doing its best to keep the fat on me, and need to fight. So I have a goal of about 1 1/2 kg a week, about 6 kg a month, and hopefully in about 3-4 months I will have lost atleast 15kg enshallah. I must stress, that am NOT going on a diet; I don't believe n quick fixes, and just need to figure out how to maintain a good balance once I get this initial weight off me. I must also remember that I am breastfeeding my son, and will probably do so for at least another 10 months enshallah.

Wish me luck, and I will try my best to keep my weght loss fun and chalenges up-to-date on perhaps a weekly basis :)

Till then...

Om Lujainty and Mansouri

Rape, Murder, Forgiveness, Rape, Murder... DEATH!

2010-04-15T15:13:00.000+03:00

This is truly disturbing! On many different levels. A Man was put on the death penalty after raping and killing a Pakistani girl, but was pardoned the last minute by the girls father. The idiot somehow gets out of prison, and does it again- this time killing an Ethiopian Maid! This time around I hope that NO pardons are given. These men need to be killed (the death penalty is around for a reason, and these animals are truly the perfect candidates for it.) What saddens me is that I KNOW of people in prison for simply owing money, some amounts as little as 3000 Dirhams. They are rotting in prison while murderers such as these are let off, and let back into society. I am also rather annoyed that they did not mention the full names of these monsters. I say their 4 names (Given, Father, Grandfather and family) should be listed for the world to read. They didn't care about the life of the women they murdered why should they be hidden and given the right to hide behind their initials.

Another disgusting rape that occured in the Emirates as well has drawn world wide attention. The rape and murder of a 4 year old boy!

Rape & Murder of 4 year old Pakistani boy
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Once again.. bloody initials are used to hide the murderers identity! They publish the names of guys who harass girls in the paper, why not publish these monsters names as well :(

Justice at last, says father of boy raped and murdered in Dubai

Justice will not be served until we see the murderer DEAD. Raping and killing a little boy in the washroom of a Masjid on Eid Day! My God! What is humanity coming to?

Coffee Talk... and an Epiphany,,,

2010-04-14T23:02:00.000+03:00

A few days ago I went for coffee with a fellow Saudi Blogger SaudiWoman. She was a sweet and wonderful company. She kept my baby girl busy with crayons and paper, and drew things for her, making her a HUGE hit with my baby girl.. :)

We asked one another lots of questions (it was the first time we met). One question she asked me stuck with me; she asked me what I studied, and I told her I have a BA with a double Major in Political Science and Sociology, she looked awed and pleasantly surprised and quickly asked me with such an educational background why I wasn't blogging about things other then my day to day life. Why I was not discussing more pressing topics. And to be perfectly honest I really didn't know how to answer. I know I gave some rambling nonsense answer, but it wasn't a real answer. But as I sat here for the next couple of days, I realised something, I have been sitting here talking about how I had lost myself in the years I have been here, and that I was losing a bit of myself as the days passed. I was constantly blaming outside forces for my lack of thought, my lack of actual 'thinking'. When I came here I was a very vocal person, who had something to say about everything. As the months turned into years I slowly withdrew from what I knew, and left myself in a cocoon far away from world issues; the reason being that I felt since I could do nothing to solve the problems around us, it was just ;leaving me depressed, so I started to ignore the news and tune into movies and tv shows (I have watched more movies and tv shows in my 6 years here then the rest of my life combined). To be perfectly honest, only I am to blame for what I have become, I can not blame Saudi or Saudi society for my lack (or loss of intelect), because if there is truly anything everywhere in Saudi, it is news, it is discussions on pressing topics, from International affairs, to local affairs, from womena rights, to childrens rights and everything in between. I won't promise to start discussing politics on my blog, but I hope to go back to keeping in touch with the world around me, to building my knowledge rather then slowly allowing it to slowly fade away. I am here to stay enshallah. This country is where my family is, and enshallah where my future shall remain.I have finally come to the conclusion that this is Home, and I shall start to truly live.

Thank you!

The World is at my Fingertips...

Hey

2010-04-09T23:03:00.000+03:00

Alrighty, well this is a blog dedicated to my weight-loss goals. In 3 years, I have gotten pregnant twice and had two healthy beautiful babies il7amdlilah. Along with those adorable bundles came some extra junk in the trunk.. who am I kidding? I have some extra junk all over! So now, I am putting out there, I NEED to lose weight! I want to lose weight, so... I will be jotting down my success and failures. Will post on what I am doing right, and what I am doing wrong (Jut had a snicker chocolate bar!!!!) I will decide on whether I will be measuring lbs or inches as well... And hopefully after this journey, I will be able to fit into a pair of size 4 ok, I will be perfectly happy with size 6 ! So wish me some luck, and show me some love <3

Will start this blog in a month...

2010-04-06T14:08:00.000+03:00

This will be the home of my kitchen creations (ok.. not MY creations.. but my attempt at them)

The Ramblings of a Saudi Wife...

Lingerie SalesMEN no more :D

Al Shaya; No Refunds, Really?!

The Terrible Twos really do exist!

Blogs I love... and a Happy New Year :)

My gadget monster

Cute :D

Brat Ban- KSA

What do you see wrong in these pictures?

The Halloween Wake-up call....

Weird/funny my things my daughter says..

May you Rest in Peace...

Long time no Blog...

Oh Please Shut me up!

Guns should be locked up or left out of a home...

RIP Prince Sultan

Life...

Unable to reply to comments...

The War of Hatred....

Mabrook 3laikum el shahar....

Happy Birthday to my beloved....

Long time no blog, and a footling breech...

MIA

Red Velvet Goodness,,,

Saudi Roads...

Complete Randomness...

Something Positive...

Only for Men!

It's that time of the year again...

Charlotte: No no no

Frustration....

My 2011 bucket list

Here is to 2011...

I would like to wish everyone a very Happy New Year, filled with new beginnings, wonderful health, and boundless success. Here is to 2011!!

Update on new visa requirement for Canadian Visiting the UAE

Update on new visa requirement for Canadian passport holders visiting the United Arab Emirates

All grown up ...

Alf Mabrook ya Q8!

Let US put an END to Legalized Pedophilia!

Trust...

Random Pics of Riyadh- taken 2007

A wake up call is needed....

Excuse me.... Wee :)

3idkum Embarak....

Little Belgian boy saluting Canadian Troops

My emotional Roller Coaster

The March for Saudi Women...

Driving Rant!

The diaper change disaster...

Banana Oat Muffins

Podge?

Rainbow Cupcakes

Ooey Gooeyyy Chocolate Chip Cookies...

Google.com celebrates Saudi National Day :)

Happy Saudi National Day

Brownies so good, you need to throw them out!

No Title...

Saleeg

Kusa Ma7shi

Pizza/hotdogs in a blanket/mini zaatar croissants

Danderma's Muhalabiya

9kg in 3 month

Gone for a bit...

Bold if True

The people of Pakistan NEED our help!

I Love Islam!

Haia to Cyber Police!

100 Shows this month??!!!

A Hallmark Holiday?

Molokhiya

Werg 3nab...

Embarak 3laikum el shahar... and a Sad reminder

Why the Saudi Weekend should be...

Should The weekends in Saudi be...

Saudi Youth

No Approval.. No Fatwa!

Blackberry key services to be blocked in UAE & KSA....

A Girls Guide to Saudi Arabia

No Women. No Play.

On Maids and OUR children...