Mar 12, 2010

Illegal to drive Bumper Cars!

Today, I was given the shock of my life. I have always known and kinda accepted the sad reality that as a women I would not be allowed to drive in this Kingdom. But today, it hit an all time LOW!. I took my daughter to the play place in the Panorama Mall, and we were enjoying ourselves. My baby girl saw the bumper cars and wanted to go on them, so my husband told me to go with my daughter on the bumper cars. We lined up, with a bunch of little boys, and some fathers who wee accompanying their children. Once my daughter and I got to where they swipe your car, the man quickly looks at me shakes his head and says 'Mafi 7[H]areem', meaning No women! I was in shock, and said excuse me? He said 'Mamnoo3 7areem' Women are not allowed. My eyes opened wide in disbelief, and I was about to make a huge scene. I quickly asked if we were in the streets od Saudi, and why I as a women was not allowed to drive a bumper car, a bloody bumper car! He told me it was a rule from the 'mul7agiya', management! My husband asked me to please not make a scene, so I didn't. But inside me I was in tears, as a women, I was scene as incompetent of driving a bumper car, while a bunch a boys and men were allowed access freely. It was truly a saddening esxperience, and I am saddened that I will have to raise my daughter in a country where she will be seen as second rate because of the sex she was born as! This cultural bull shit has got to go! It needs to be changed! I plan on making an official complaint. I don't know what it will do, but it will make me feel better that I did not fall silent and accept this bullshit!

Source : http://www.blwebdesign.com/ATW/images/bumpercars.jpg


I will fully admit that I writing this post while I am extremely angry! I have not had the time to cool down, and still feel like I have been treated as a nobody! I will also make it a point that these idiotic rules have NOTHING to do with religion. So please no Islam bashing! This is purely an issue with men who want to control women through cultural rules that need to be 'retired'!



17 comments:

  1. Asalam Alaykum, Ukti this guy was just talking from his you know what. That is not true what so ever. I have drove the bumper cars here in Saudi WITH many other female drivers when I did at the Othaim mall..

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  2. Why shouldn't you be angry about that? I mean, it's utterly ridiculous, and of course it's not religious...my sympathies. It shouldn't be this way.

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  3. that is ridiculous!!! I am fuming after reading this!

    can you ask your husband to call up the management to talk about this?

    obviously they aren't going to want to listen to a woman!!

    astagferAllah!

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  4. Noor... I spoke to some friends of mine and they said its a general rule that its now allowed, but some places chose to ignore the rule. Perhaps I shall take my baby girl to Othaim Mall enshallah, let her have some fun with mommy.

    Orchidthief... I will admit now that I wanted to cry (outwardly).. but didn't! Freaking frustrating!

    Twizzle, I will be making a complaint, and try to get my husband to do something as well, even though he is usually those that just abide by rules, and not one to fight for change.. lol

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  5. Maybe this mall doesn't need your, or any of your friends', business anymore. You could let management know that they will no longer have your business (and having any and all willing friends do the same) until they change their policy. Voices don't always work, but the almighty dollar (or riyal, in this case) tends to make a difference.

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  6. That is quite saddening to read, but insha allah this will change eventually, I live in Aus but in 1 and half years once I finish my degree I am going to live in KSA, and I have many Saudi women friends who live here studying and are learning to drive. It has nothing to do with religion it has to do with segragation and control. Remember that Allah sees and hears all so come the day of judgement, those that came up with this rule will certainly regret it. Ma'a salamah my sister

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  7. Noor, you are right, buts its a brand new mall, that will be serving luxury designer goods. Not so sure how easily people will be to boycotting the place...

    I have sent a complaint to them online.. and will try to go to the actual office enshallah...

    here is a link to the mall

    http://www.zoom-creative.com/clients/panorama-mall/

    Angel- You are 100% correct, but I must also add that its not always bad here, there are the good moments that let you appreciate calling this place home. I am sure you will like it here enshallah :)

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  8. So sorry you and your daughter were exposed to such a dismal incident - hope she is small enough to forget it, even though as you stated she will grow up in a location where women are not at the front of the line. Hopefully by the time she is a teenager things will have improved dramatically (I know wishful thinking)that she won't be subjected to that kind of treatment even in an amusement area!

    Go ahead please with your complaint- these things really need to be put out to pasture!

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  9. Sorry to hear this, I can feel your frustration!
    But the good news is if you go to Hukair land, you'll drive the bumper car you want.
    I had LOTS OF FUN driving the bumper cars over & over again..I was by myself even (no kids), just me & my friend. They have ones for kids & one for teens & most if not all adults would fit in these. Just go it would be a BLAST. I'm going there soon again LOOOOOL

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  10. Sorry to hear this, I can feel your frustration!
    But the good news is if you go to Hukair land, you'll drive the bumper car you want.
    I had LOTS OF FUN driving the bumper cars over & over again..I was by myself even (no kids), just me & my friend. They have ones for kids & one for teens & most if not all adults would fit in these. Just go it would be a BLAST. I'm going there soon again LOOOOOL

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  11. I definitely know what it's like to be told I can't get on a ride just because I'm a girl. When I was only 12, I was already being told I wasn't allowed to play on anything in some amusement parks, and it was absolutely humiliating and devastating - especially when all I wanted to do was have some fun. Saudi sure knows how to suck the joy out of a kid's heart...

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  12. great blog. and I know this sounds weird but i have a question. is there something wrong with lingerie salemen?? i mean is that like a saudi scam or something. sorry but i just wondered.lol i know saudi is a crazy place to live ( i lived there before and my friend had to get rescued by the american embassy so iono) just wondering.

    juju

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  13. Inal- Thank you for commenting, I plan on making my daughter feel as confident as possible in this society. I hope that I will raise her to be one of the movers in society.

    andaluss- thank u for commenting. I drive by Hukair land often, and will hopefully try my best to go there. Are families allowed? or is it a park where only the mothers can enter with their kids? I am happy you had loads of fun there, and may life always keep you smiling enshallah :)

    echodepiction: Thank you for commenting, and I am sorry you had to go through such humiliation at such a tender age. Its sad, and I truly hope that it will change soon. I know it would kill me to see my daughter go through something like that when she was at an age she could understand and remember the experience :(

    JuJu- Thank you for commenting, but no, its not a scam. We have problems here where although we are not supposed to mingle with men, we are still forced to buy our personal garments, i.e. lingerie, bras, etc from male salesmen, as the majority of salesmen in lingerie shops here are MEN. It can get rather weird when you have some man staring at your chest area trying to determine what bra size you wear. Rather embarrassing. So while women are not allowed to lets say go on a bumper car (used this example for the sake of the title.. lol), we are subjected to some pervert staring at us under the guise of helping us shop. Of all the countries in the world, you woudl think Saudi would be the LAST place to allow such a thing to happen! And whats adds insult to injury is that there was a ruling that WOMEN are supposed to be taking over the positions are lingerie shops, a ruling that occurred a couple of years ago, a ruling that has been swept under the carpet and ignored!

    http://www.thenational.ae/apps/pbcs.dll/article?AID=/20100223/FOREIGN/702229908/1011

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  14. LOL o i c.

    on the subject of underthings. my husband used to be a lingerie designer in syria. LOL. (thats wwere we r from) i never really minded being around the men but i suppose it is aqward when i think about it in the context of KSA.

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  15. see your husband is on a different level. He is a professional.. these men know NOTHING about what they sell, but are ready to try size you up and give u the wrong size guess! I mean relly? lol

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