Jun 10, 2009


This will be a very short post. I have begun to feel rather guilty... you may ask why? I'll tell you! Because I am pregnant. And why should I feel guilty? I feel guilty as I won't be able to give my baby girl the full attention she gets now. In my eyes, she is still a little baby, and needs me to be there for her often. I know its probably wrong to feel like this, and believe me I am happy to be pregnant, but somewhere in me that guilt arises every time I look at my little girl, and come to the full realisation that I won't be able to be there for her 24/7 like I am now. I pray Allah makes things easy for us...


  1. As a mother of six I can honestly say I understand how you feel.

    However, I came across a saying once which made me view love in a whole different way. I don't recall it verbatim, but it goes something like...

    "The heart doesn't divide...it grows."

    You will soon find out how true this is:o)

    Congratulations on your pregnancy and growing family!

  2. Hello,

    Sorry to leave this in the form of a comment, but I was hoping you might be able to help me...

    My name is Dave Sabey and I work for CARTUS (www.cartus.com) an International Relocation Company.

    As a part of our service, CARTUS offers relocating business professionals and their families one- or two-day training programs, run by our specially trained consultants, aimed at smoothing the transition from one country and culture to another. The programs are made up of two main sections. Firstly the participants are given theoretical methods and frameworks to allow them to recognise their own National culture and the culture of others. Then the participants are offered a number of customised presentations given by ‘experts’ in certain fields. It is for the latter section that I am contacting you.

    I am currently working with a British woman who will shortly be relocating to Riyadh with her husband and their 2 children (4 years old and 22 months). As a result I am looking for an Expat currently living in the area to give her a presentation about the challenges of living in Riyadh on a day-to-ay basis and how best to overcome them. The presentation will take place on Friday 19th June via conference call and will be entitled “Establishing a Home and Lifestyle in Riyadh”. I can provide a guideline of the topics that could be covered by the presentation for your information. It would ideally last around an hour and will take place in English. The presentation is paid and all calls will be incoming, so no costs will be incurred by the presenter.

    If you know of anyone that would be willing and able to give the presentation, please feel free to forward this email onto them, alternatively you can contact me either by email (david.sabey@cartus.com) or direct on +441793 756177.

    Thanks and Kind regards,


  3. OMGosh!! It has been a loooooong time! Hope all is well with you Insha'Allah!

    You shouldn't feel guilty sweetheart!! Your heart is BIG and more than capable to give lots and lots and lots of EQUAL LOVE and attention to all your kids! You are a good mom, never forget that!;)

  4. Once you have yor new baby and see our daughter smiling at her new playmate, I think the guilt will go aay substantially. I know it's hard habibty, but remember that most women have 2.5 kids with only a 2 year average age gap. Walahi you are in the norm. Love you lots.

  5. Salam, I know just how you feel! I just gave birth to my 6th baby 3 weeks ago and I go through that feeling of guilt EVERY time I am pregnant! I want to be pregnant but then I start feeling bad for the youngest that they won't be the baby of the family anymore will all the privileges that seem to come with that.... getting away with anything, having all the older ones mothering them, being the cute one! LOL


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