I have taken many women's study courses in university, and remember reading a particular book on the abuse of wives by their husband. I remember reading many women making excuses for their husbands, claiming they deserved to be abused, as they did something wrong. I remember clearly thinking, no person has the right to abuse anyone, for any reason. Now this morning I read an article on Arab News where a Saudi Judge made a comment to a panel concerning abuse. He actually made the following comment;
"If a person gives SR1,200 to his wife and she spends SR900 to purchase an abaya (the black gown) from a brand shop and if her husband slaps her on the face as a reaction to her action, she deserves that punishment,” said Judge Hamad Al-Razine.
I must say that I was initially in shock as I read those words, but as I continued to think, I found where my shock actually lay. It wasn't the comment within itself, but rather WHO made the comment. A Judge! A Judge that has the power to make a change in society, a Judge who holds justice in his hands, a Judge that can make or break a persons life. To think of all the women who have stood up to their abuser, and were given a slap in their face by a judge of this caliber, giving abuse an excuse. Allowing a man to slap his wife, because she spends money he has given her as she pleases. I just hope that such frames of mind change, for if any country is to move forwards, they must put a stop to any abuse, any discrimination, any wrongs that are committed to helpless people .
I have nothing else to add, I just hope that change does happen, and that the change is for the best enshallah.
Oh Yeah... Have a Happy Mothers Day all... :)